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[CHAT]: Goals and Goal-Setting

So, goals are good. We get told it from our school, by our parents and by society all the time.

 

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We get told that life is a simple progression from setting, goals, achieving those goals, and then setting new goals. Achieving goals guarantees success, and success guarantees happiness, right?

 

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But, what happens if you don't succeed in your goals? What happens if your goals aren't the same as the goals that other people want for you? Arguably, goals are important, but what happens if you develop an unhealthy relationship with them? What if you set too much? Or too little?

How do you make goal-setting work for you, and not against you?

 

Join us next Monday, 17th July at A NEW TIME OF 7:30pm AEST To have a chat about all things goal-related. We hope to see you there! 🙂

basketofmonkeys
basketofmonkeysPosted 03-07-2017 09:37 PM
 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 17-07-2017 08:53 PM
Yeah but for some reason my brain still got confused maths is too hard @Ben-RO
 
 
 
 
 
FootyFan26
FootyFan26Posted 17-07-2017 08:48 PM

4. What does an effective goal look like? [You might remember SMART goals from school...]

 
 
 
 
 
mspaceK
mspaceKPosted 17-07-2017 09:07 PM

4. What does an effective goal look like? [You might remember SMART goals from school...]

I remember SMART goals! These are seriously important and I think is the basis and general guidelines for setting any goal. For those of you who may not know, SMART is an acronym which stands for: 

S - specific, significant, stretching

M - measurable, meaningful, motivational

A - agreed upon, attainable, achievable, acceptable, action-oriented

R - realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-oriented

T - time-based, time-bound, timely, tangible, trackable

They are aspects for setting effective goals because if your goal meets these requirements, then the goal is usually more likely to be practically possible to achieve. 

 

I think an effective goal is one that is possible to achieve within your reasonable expectations and capabilities. I think this relates to having small goals and then overarching goals. For example - my overall goal is to 'become a teacher.' To become a teacher I need to get my degree. And to get my degree I need to pass my units (assignments). And to pass my assignments I need to understand the content and complete the assignments. To effectively achieve this overarching goal I need to take into account smaller goals (SMART goals) that will help me get there. So effective goals in relation to my overarching goal include: 

- Attend uni classes.
- Ask for help from friends and teachers.
- Work on my assignments (spend 10 minutes each night working on an assignment or reading over content)

- Complete and submit my assignments.

The list could go on and on. I can make this list smaller or bigger depending on what I feel comfortable with at the time, so that I don't get overloaded. I can choose to focus on any of these aspects at any given time. 

 

I hope this makes sense. 🙂 

 

 
 
 
 
 
FootyFan26
FootyFan26Posted 17-07-2017 08:56 PM

I've been taught about SMARTER goals.  These goals are:

Specific

Measurable

Accepted

Realistic

Time-framed

Exciting

Recorded

 
 
 
 
 
roseisnotaplant
roseisnotaplantPosted 17-07-2017 08:58 PM
Realistic, that's it @FootyFan26 😛
 
 
 
 
 
Ben-RO
Ben-ROPosted 17-07-2017 09:04 PM

Oooh i like the idea of Smarter goals that's clever @FootyFan26 

 

So I wonder, for those of us who have experienced a goal fail (everyone in the universe) could we think of a part of the goal we made that wasn't "SMART" or "SMARTER" ?

 
 
 
 
 
roseisnotaplant
roseisnotaplantPosted 17-07-2017 09:07 PM
Definitely @Ben-RO. I'll often aim way too high and then get disappointed when I don't succeed. I think I need to work on making my goals more realistic and attainable (and probably all the other things too come to think of it :P).
 
 
 
 
 
Meowkins
MeowkinsPosted 17-07-2017 09:13 PM

I also aim very high. But I have discovered that goals are necessary to complete things. For example, I went to university but didn't have an end goal (eg. To become a ...) i just went. In the end I lost motivation because I didn't have a goal and dropped out (there were many reasons that contributed to my dropping out) 

I didn't know what I was going to use my degree for and so without that goal of needing it to become whatever it it I wanted to be, I lost my way.

 

 
 
 
 
 
roseisnotaplant
roseisnotaplantPosted 17-07-2017 09:11 PM
Wow that's awesome @mspaceK. Breaking down goals into smaller chunks is definitely a valuable skill to have.
 
 
 
 
 
roseisnotaplant
roseisnotaplantPosted 17-07-2017 09:16 PM

Some of us have shared that sometimes goals can be counterproductive and can make us feel unmotivated.

 

How do you think you can have a healthy relationship with goals?

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mspaceK
mspaceKPosted 17-07-2017 09:22 PM

How do you think you can have a healthy relationship with goals?

I think I can do my best to keep a healthy relationship with goals by reminding myself that they are just that - goals - they are not my lifeline and it is NOT the end of the world if I do not achieve them. Achieving my goals is very exciting and rewarding and it makes me proud. I look at goals as a pathway for navigating my way through life. Healthy goals give me purpose, passion and consistency. 

 

And the most fantastic thing about goals is that even if you fail one goal, you can always set another. You can change your goal and learn things from it. That's how I think you can have a healthy relationship with goals, by realising that they are there to support you and guide you with all your endeavours and deadlines (whether it be school or work related). 🙂 

 
 
 
 
 
roseisnotaplant
roseisnotaplantPosted 17-07-2017 09:26 PM
How do you think you can have a healthy relationship with goals?

Keeping in mind that it's not the end of the world if you don't achieve them. They're there to give you focus and guidance, not to make you stressed out about them. I sometimes have to remind myself this 😛

Keeping them realistic and breaking them down into smaller steps can also help with this. I think you just have to not go overboard with setting them 😛
 
 
 
 
 
Ben-RO
Ben-ROPosted 17-07-2017 09:17 PM

Oooh such a good question @roseisnotaplant ðŸ™‚ 

 

 
 
 
 
 
Meowkins
MeowkinsPosted 17-07-2017 09:24 PM

Healthy relationship with goals: Don't let goals interfere with your sense of well being! As in, don't let them stress you out or put too much unecessary focus on them if you're struggling to reach them.

 

And with that, I'm off to bed! Busy day at work tomorrow and I need my sleep to be able to reach my goals hehe

 
 
 
 
 
roseisnotaplant
roseisnotaplantPosted 17-07-2017 09:27 PM

Night @Meowkins 🙂 See you round!

 
 
 
 
 
FootyFan26
FootyFan26Posted 17-07-2017 09:34 PM

So it has hit 9:30 which is the end on tonight GR!  All your answers have been amazing and very helpful.  Thank you for coming and I hope everyone has a great night!

 
 
 
 
 
mspaceK
mspaceKPosted 17-07-2017 09:39 PM

Thanks everyone 😄

 

Goodnight!

 
 
 
 
 
FootyFan26
FootyFan26Posted 17-07-2017 09:40 PM
Take care guys 🙂
 
 
 
 
 
roseisnotaplant
roseisnotaplantPosted 17-07-2017 09:35 PM
Goodnight everyone 😄 Thanks for tonight's chat, s'been fun!
 
 
 
 
 
Ben-RO
Ben-ROPosted 17-07-2017 09:39 PM

Woo such a good chat, i'm liking finishing 30 mins earlier too. Sleep well y'all! Thanks for your contributions @roseisnotaplant @basketofmonkeys @FootyFan26 @redhead @Meowkins @redhead @j95 @mspaceK @Jays_Wing i think that's everyone!?

 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 17-07-2017 09:25 PM
@Meowkins sleep well
 
 
 
 
 
Ben-RO
Ben-ROPosted 17-07-2017 09:25 PM

Thanks for all your great contributions to the chat @Meowkins! Have a great snooze and a wonderful day at work tomorrow 🙂 

 

 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 17-07-2017 09:22 PM
How do you think you can have a healthy relationship with goals?

Remind myself it's ok if it doesn't go to plan, there's more than one way to climb a mountain
 
 
 
 
 
FootyFan26
FootyFan26Posted 17-07-2017 09:26 PM
I like that @redhead! 😄 that's actually a pretty fucking cool saying!
 
 
 
 
 
roseisnotaplant
roseisnotaplantPosted 17-07-2017 09:19 PM
Thanks @Ben-RO 😛

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