LIVE GR: Moving Out of Home (11th of November 7:30pm)
Moving out of home can be an exciting time. It can potentially enable us to experience a new culture, spend more time with friends, partners or extended family, be more closer to work or study or give us a sense of freedom and independence.
But it can also be challenging. Who knew there was so much to learn? Suddenly, you might have to learn new skills you've never had to use before. Other times, we might not get along with members of our new household or find ourselves struggling to pay the bills. What if we end up missing our old home?
So join us this Wednesday, the 11th of November at 7:30pm, where we'll be discussing all the ins and outs of moving out of home.
Can't wait to see you all then! 🙂
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@Lost_Space_Explorer5 I think that's a major thing -- a lot of people don't like asking for help for whatever reason, but if you're moving out then I definitely recommend getting yourself comfortable with the idea of asking for help!! 
As I mentioned before, homesickness would definitely be my biggest challenge! My family and I have already discussed a bit what we could do if I do happen to move interstate for uni, including staying connected through video calls and coming home during holidays. I would also need to try my best to make new friends and stay connected, since I don't really know anyone interstate!
What kinds of challenges can arise when moving out? How can we cope with these and what can we do if we're struggling?
Again... everything we've already touched on! 
Something that always comes to mind is what happens if I enter a period of depression or something... if I lived alone, who would check up on me? If I lived with others, would they be understanding? I don't imagine it'd be plesant to live with someone who'd go for ages without leaving their room. So I think maintaining a support system would be very important.
Also, knowing what to do in case things go wrong/ break down, and knowing there's options if you're struggling financially (e.g. Centrelink + others).
Adding to what everyone has said, I think it's really important to consider who you'll be living with! Whether it be a partner, or some friends, you want them to be trustworthy people who you're comfortable with. Please try not to move out alone!
What are some things you need to keep in mind about moving out of home? How can we budget and plan for moving out? What are some of the things you want to get right?
I think we've covered this pretty well in the last two questions! So much to think about... living in a safe area with things you want close by (e.g. transport, hospitals, job/ school), making sure you have a stable source of income, having enough money to get you started when moving out (thinking about furniture etc), whether you want to live on your own or with roommates... so many! I get overwhelmed thinking about it all so I have no tips as to how to budget, hopefully others may have some? 
@Lost_Space_Explorer5 That's so true. You definitely need to know all the documents, rules and legal stuff if you're moving into an apartment or with friends especially. Apartments can have rules such as not having pets. We bought an apartment many years ago to use as a holiday house and rent it out when we're not there, but this year there was a change in law and policy that makes it harder for us to do that. So we've put it on the market and are trying to find someone who would rent it for a longer term. Homeowners' associations can be a nightmare too. At one point we had to get our lawyer to send them a letter.
@WheresMySquishy 'I'm not a domestic kind of person, so the main thing I would worry about when moving home is what to do if something goes wrong or breaks down.'
Same! And even like... shopping for groceries! What on earth am I going to eat if I'm in charge?
I reckon I'd be living off a diet of cereal @Hozzles I know how to cook some things but effort... Take tonight's dinner with my family out of the house: a vegemite sandwich and cup of soup *chef kiss*
@Lost_Space_Explorer5 Hahaha I have Vegemite sandwiches virtually every day!
No... I mean, I really want to because I want to be more independent and sometimes I feel like living at home is bad for my mental health. At the same time, I'm really, really worried. I've never really had a job before, so making money will be a struggle. I already hate spending money on myself, haha, so decorating would be a headache (unless I buy a house, then nothing is stopping me from painting the kitchen bright green or whatever). I don't know if I could live on my own (who could I vent to if something goes wrong? Who can I ask for help opening jars?! What if there's a spooky ghost on the property, who will comfort me? ) but at the same time it'd be really hard for me to trust any roommates. 
I also can't drive, so that's another thing... I'll have to get my license first, or try and live near public transport, ahah.
Our area used to be so bad with public transport @Hozzles, but now it's great. 🙂 The old way of me getting to university was like an hour and a half on public transport, but now it's only twenty minutes-ish. I would also want to live somewhere with good public transport, or with everything close by.
@Lost_Space_Explorer5 I also wonder the same thing! I have to always have health insurance. If I need surgery, my doctors will send me to a private hospital and there can be long waiting lists with the kind of surgeries I have had or might need at public hospitals, so I need some sort of cover. I got a letter the other day saying I need to change my health insurance and I have no idea how I'll be able to afford the benefits I need in the future. My parents will help me out for the time being though.
My parents randomly got health insurance for me recently to help me pay for group therapy and on on one therapy. I don't know what I'd do if I had other things to pay for that come with living out of home. At the same time I don't like living with my family all the time. Oh but then how would I take my cats with me... So many things to think about
That's so good that your parents gave you health insurance @Lost_Space_Explorer5! My parents initially had me on a package with theirs but I need to change plans soon.
I've heard of patients having to wait months in between kidney stone surgeries and with ureteral stents (which is what I had) due to not having private health insurance and I don't think I would be able to handle that. After one month of not being able to move around as much and being uncomfortable, I was over it and couldn't wait to have it removed.
@WheresMySquishy yeah, it's pretty awful. Apparently back in July I was put on a list to have surgery to fix my lazy eye... but because it's a public hospital + I don't have insurance, I have to wait (and I haven't even heard anything back so who knows if I'm even on a list?). the dentist is the absolute worst thing ever, too. Would definitely try to get dental insurance as soon as I'm financially able!
@Lost_Space_Explorer5 This would probably come up in a later question, but I couldn't live without my pets!
Ugh, I don't even want to think about insurance right now. 
Oh hi @Lost_Space_Explorer5 , sorry I didn't see your post! Moving out for uni would definitely be a big change! Since I'm so reliant on my family, I would miss having food cooked for me, or my clothes washed, or watching the fridge magically restock itself! I would also miss talking to my family all the time, which is something I do to relieve stress. Although, it would also give me a lot of freedom and help me become more independent. Not to mention, it would be fun to explore a new city!
