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TW: I’m alone
everything has been getting harder for me and I can’t stop feeling like it is never going to change, I have suffered from self harm for 3 nearly 4 years on and off and I just can’t seem to stop anymore. I need help and I know but I am so scared to look for help
@tasminspeedd you can use a nickname, fake name, or something like that. I think that they just like having something to call you.
You also don't have to fill in every box, so you can leave out information if you want to.
I just tested it, and I'm pretty sure that you can skip the first page of questions entirely if you want to.
@Tiny_leaf thankyou so much you don’t know how much this means to me that I can actually have some help, I have been dealing with this for so long I am just surprised thag people actually care about me
@tasminspeedd you're welcome, I'm glad I could help.
And there will always be people who care about you, even if the people you know irl don't make it feel like that.
@Tiny_leaf @tasminspeedd I found these threads about self-care:
Confused about self care?
Today I practiced self care by...
They have a lot of ideas you can try.
hey @tasminspeedd, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time at the moment. Self harm can be quite difficult to overcome, and I know from experience how sometimes people don't understand that it isn't an attention-seeking behaviour, but a coping mechanism.
I think @Tiny_leaf's suggestions are awesome - I've talked to Kids Helpline via their webchat before and it was awesome. No one knew, and it was free, which is great. Would you feel comfortable giving this a try?
Also, if you were up for trying some alternatives to self-harm, here are a few things that worked for me:
- Holding ice-cubes until they melted - the cold shocked my system a bit, and was very sensory
- Smashing ice-cubes with a hammer - got out some of my aggression and gave some relief
- Eating sour lollies - again, kind of the sensory shock
- Cold showers
- Squeezing putty - if you can't get some putty, BlueTack from school does the trick too
Congratulations on reaching out for some support. I know you feel quite alone at the moment from what you've said, but know that the RO community is always here for you, and that I am always up for a chat. You can do this, just take one step at a time 🙂
Mainly what I have been trying to use to get through it all is music and talking to me best friend and sadly self harm
It is mainly my parents because they found out about my self harm the first year and they just said that it was all for attention and I tried to explain to them that it’s not and they never understand