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TW: I’m alone

everything has been getting harder for me and I can’t stop feeling like it is never going to change, I have suffered from self harm for 3 nearly 4 years on and off and I just can’t seem to stop anymore. I need help and I know but I am so scared to look for help

tasminspeedd
tasminspeeddPosted 09-07-2019 02:58 PM

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Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 11-07-2019 07:41 PM

@tasminspeedd you can use a nickname, fake name, or something like that. I think that they just like having something to call you.

You also don't have to fill in every box, so you can leave out information if you want to.

I just tested it, and I'm pretty sure that you can skip the first page of questions entirely if you want to.

 
 
 
 
 
tasminspeedd
tasminspeeddPosted 12-07-2019 12:11 PM

@Tiny_leaf  thankyou so much you don’t know how much this means to me that I can actually have some help, I have been dealing with this for so long I am just surprised thag people actually care about me 

 
 
 
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 12-07-2019 12:19 PM

@tasminspeedd you're welcome, I'm glad I could help.

And there will always be people who care about you, even if the people you know irl don't make it feel like that. 

 
 
 
 
 
WheresMySquishy
WheresMySquishyPosted 10-07-2019 08:46 PM

@Tiny_leaf  @tasminspeedd  I found these threads about self-care:

Confused about self care?
Today I practiced self care by...

They have a lot of ideas you can try.

 
 
 
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 10-07-2019 09:29 PM

@WheresMySquishy thanks! I knew there was one somewhere..... 

 
 
 
 
 
queenP
queenPPosted 11-07-2019 10:01 AM

hey @tasminspeedd, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time at the moment. Self harm can be quite difficult to overcome, and I know from experience how sometimes people don't understand that it isn't an attention-seeking behaviour, but a coping mechanism.

 

I think @Tiny_leaf's suggestions are awesome - I've talked to Kids Helpline via their webchat before and it was awesome. No one knew, and it was free, which is great. Would you feel comfortable giving this a try? 

 

Also, if you were up for trying some alternatives to self-harm, here are a few things that worked for me:

  • Holding ice-cubes until they melted - the cold shocked my system a bit, and was very sensory
  • Smashing ice-cubes with a hammer - got out some of my aggression and gave some relief
  • Eating sour lollies - again, kind of the sensory shock
  • Cold showers 
  • Squeezing putty - if you can't get some putty, BlueTack from school does the trick too

 

Congratulations on reaching out for some support. I know you feel quite alone at the moment from what you've said, but know that the RO community is always here for you, and that I am always up for a chat. You can do this, just take one step at a time 🙂 

 
 
 
 
 
tasminspeedd
tasminspeeddPosted 10-07-2019 01:28 PM

Mainly what I have been trying to use to get through it all is music and talking to me best friend and sadly self harm

 
 
 
 
 
Esperanza67
Esperanza67Posted 09-07-2019 07:12 PM
No worries @tasminspeedd! Just to quickly clarify, when you say that you're not able to see a psychologist, is it because you think that your parents won't let you be able to see one? Or is it due to something else entirely?
 
 
 
 
 
tasminspeedd
tasminspeeddPosted 10-07-2019 11:00 AM

It is mainly my parents because they found out about my self harm the first year and they just said that it was all for attention and I tried to explain to them that it’s not and they never understand 

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