how do i deal with my sadness
Hi, im really new to this. latley i have been feeling so down i don't know what to do about it. i just dont want to move, get out of bed, anything that envolves speaking to people. i have been haing these thoughts that i just want to be off this planet, i dont want to live anymore. It makes me sadder that i don't know why i'm sad. do you need a reason to be sad. i just want someone to tell me whats wrong with me, what is happening to me
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hi everybody, i have got back from camp. i am feeling the same maybe even worse, yesterday i had to call kids helpline and i felt so usless. i do not know what it is like for other peole but it sorta helped. i then wrote down everything i was feeling and i gave it to my mum because i can not really speak face to face without feeling weird about it and i dont wanna make her upset. i just wanted to thank everybody for there suggestions and asking me how camp went. it went ok but i feel like i was not in the right state of mind to go. Today i went to see a lady i do not know what you call them, but they work for camhs. she helped me through some things but she said she wanted to cut the session short. i cant tell my bestfriend any of this becase she just does not get it. i feel like there is a weight inside me that i just cant let go and it is so hard to move sometimes.
Hey @nala23 welcome back from camp 
Sounds like you've been working at feeling better, but there's still the heavy feeling inside huh?
Will you continue to look for a good counsellor / mental health service?
Is there anywhere awesome around your area such as a youth centre with free resources?
i think the lady i saw yesterday will turn out good but i do not like talking to people about my feelings because i start crying and i hate people seeing me cry. im pretty sure that C.A.M.H.S is free.
Ohhh @nala23 I totally know what you mean - I struggled a lot with psychologists and stuff because i would go straight up nonverbal when talking about my emotions and whats bothering me. Keep trying - I promise it will get easier. Emotional intelligence, like any skill, has to be learned, so you gotta start somewhere.
I 100% love this nifty lil chart. When I need help, I just highlight the things I'm feeling and show someone. This is also good for finding the right words for your feelings
Another thing I think would help is normalising talking about your emotions. It doesn't have to be in depth, serious stuff that you might only talk with your close friends and family about. Just stuff like, "oh, I'm really happy today because I saw a dog" (this is me every time I see a dog) or "I'm a bit down because I broke my necklace". You'll get more used to opening up about the big stuff and what not.
I'm glad your getting help angel 
hi, omg thank you so much for this little chart will defiently be printing off 100 of these. i think that they will make things so much eaiser for me and btw i will am defiently the same as you and just go nonverbale and thats why the lady cut the session short oops... do you have any other tips you seem like you know alot about this.
hmm. Brainstorming ways that work for YOU to communicate is best, and keeping the people around you in the loop is good too ^^ like telling people how to help you when youre sad. My family know that I prefer not to talk about it, and i will just come up and chat about something random if i need a distraction. Finding ways to cope by yourself also helps a lot too - I found mindfulness to REALLY helps, I do art stuff, I go for walks, I play animal crossing (world's best game in my opinion). It's just about trying out different things and seeing whats best for you n__n
For instance, a lot of people suggested cleaning to me, but because i get sad at night a lot, cleaning just started me on an obsessive rampage and i wouldnt sleep. Meditating, reading, and drawing, helps me be distracted and unwind, which is more suited to what I need. Give things a go and dont be afraid to do research and take advice from people !
Hey @nala23 welcome back from camp and well done for calling kids helpline. Talking on the phone can be quite daunting, and I'm really glad you took that step.
How are you feeling at the moment?
Hey @nala23, welcome - Glad you could join us!
A lot of people that come here seem to have a similar experience to yourself. @Bree-RO has some excellent points in that there could be any number of things wrong, but it's likely that only a GP will be able to work it out for sure.
I had made similar posts under an alternate account last year when things were getting pretty bad for me. I saw no way out, as my circumstances were seeming more dire by the day. There were a few days in particular that will stick in my memory for years to come where I was seriously weighing the value of my life against others. I actually had to take this year off from University. It felt horrible. But one of the things I did this year, after allowing myself many months to think things through rationally, was seeking professional help. Specifically, I saw a GP and awkwardly tried to explain what I thought was wrong with me. In my case, this was anxiety and depression. That same day I was trialling a medication that was supposed to make my moods and energy levels more even throughout the day, and I haven't looked back. I put up with horror for years when it was to be so easily remedied.
Now things might not be so simple for you, or they might be. Either way, I encourage you to get a professional opinion. Whatever the problem may turn out to be I'm sure there is a solution. You just need to muster whatever persistence you have left for this task. And please do update us if you make progress. Even something as trivial as making an appointment is an important step 
Hey @nala23 I hope you're going okay, if you are on camp.
I'm in a similar position to you now/recently. I felt unbearably sad, like there was a physical weight inside me. I find when this happens, I just let it. I tell myself, this will pass. I put all my pillows on my bed and I've been marathoning catfish and stargate: atlantis. I find allowing yourself some time to have a bit of a sulk, some down and alone time, without beating yourself up about it, really really helps. You're allowed to be sad. You're allowed to be depressed. It's not going to last forever.
On top of this, however, I also let my family know/told them what was going on. I told my friends what was happening. Less so that they could help me, but so they could understand why I was being forgetful and flaky and an emotional brick wall. I went back on medication (I have been considering it for a while now though) and made appointments with my psychologist and psychiatrist.
I hope this helps. Even if you don't do what I do, remember you're not alone in this
How are you going today?
Could you possibly speak with a school counsellor or a trusted teacher or adult whilst you are on camp if you feel the need to?
(I guess you are on camp now), so how is it going and I hope you have been able to manage your feelings?
Hey @nala23, welcome to ReachOut! Thanks heaps for jumping on and sharing this story, it can be a little hard talking about this stuff huh? However you've come to the right place, the crew on ReachOut are amazing when it comes to peer support and a few will have also experienced similar feelings to yourself.
I have gone through a similar experience previously, unfortunately we can't tell you exactly what the problem is, but we can share one another's experiences which may help.
In my case, I went through a similar experience in the past. I ended up going to the GP, and from there had some amazing referrals and figured out what was wrong - for me it was mental illness, but for some it's chronic fatigue, diet or sometimes even a flu.
Have you thought about talking to a GP, teacher or counsellor about how you're feeling right now?
I am concerned when you say you don't want to live anymore, we want you to be safe! Do you plan on self harming?
Look forward to hearing from you.
i don't think i self harm. This year earlier in the year i would stractch at my arm or hand but i never pysically hurt my self. i have spoken to a couple of people about it. I am going to speak to someone about it next week but i have camp tomrrow and im so confused what to do. i would really apprecite if people would tell me what to do about it. I feel like a bad person because i don't want to live anymore, im trying to think of my parents and how it would affect them but i feel like i'm a burdan to them
Hey @nala23, just had to do a quick edit of your post. Have a quick look over the forum guidelines [click here]; just to avoid bringing up some hard stuff for other users on the forum 🙂
That sounds like a really hard time, how do you feel about the camping trip? Do you think it will be a good distraction or are you concerned it's coming at a bad time..or am I super off the mark? It can be easy to feel like a burden to the people we love when we're in this dark place, and I believe that our minds can play tricks on us.
There are lots of things that you can do to help yourself, and you have already taken the first step by jumping on ReachOut - well done! Speaking to someone next week also sounds like a really positive move for you right now.
Have you thought about phoning Kids Helpline (1800 551 800) or Lifeline (13 11 14) to speak to a qualified counsellor? They can be a good short term resource. Some things I do when I feel down are meditating, walking the dogs, or using some mindfulness apps such as Smiling Mind, Nature Space or Headspace.
Is there anything you can think of that might make you feel a bit better?
hi sorry i didn't know about the guidelines. i think the camp might be a good distraction but i also think it is coming at the worse time possible for me. i have thought of the kids helpline but i dont like speaking to people and especially when i'm in such a dark place at the moment. the worse thing is i cant take my phone on the school camp so if i need to message my mum i can't. i just wish people around me could see whats going on, it makes it so diffifcult when im hanging out with my friends because i can't tell them the truth because i don't want them to think less of me. thank you for your help
