@j95 I think it shows how aware and respectful you are of your partner's needs and feelings that you've apologised and tried communicating and now you're just giving her the space she needs. I hope things work out. How are you feeling today? Making mistakes is always tough, but try not to be too hard on yourself; everybody makes mistakes sometimes.
Understandable @j95. It's really brave of you to give her space during such a tough time. How are you feeling?
@j95 everyone makes mistakes, what can you learn about yourself from this, what can you do to do things differently next time?
OR and this is contentious, but is part of your identity wanting to be able to see multiple people sometimes?
Also remember that being mean to yourself or paying yourself out or stuff like that doesn't count as learning
@Ben-RO I don't know what I would do differently, probably just think first haha
With the identity thing, I don't know, like its something I have thought about before alot and kind of keeps coming up in my head
This isn't the case with all of them, but I know that for at least some of the ones I've been friends with they're planning to eventually settle into a monogamous relationship and are using open relationships while they're young so that they're able to feel more comfortable settling down later. I considered doing this myself for a little while last year even, because I liked someone a lot but neither of us were in a place to just be with each other.
I guess what I'm saying with all of that is that it's fine to try something more open if it's what you want/need at this time, and that even if it's not exactly common or usual, it isn't uncommon.
@j95 it sounds like a really awful situation that you're in, I hope you're feeling okay.
If you're feeling up for talking about your reason for thinking that way, we are absolutely here to support you and I'm sure other people can probably relate
@Sarah7714 oh man this is kind of hard to explain haha I kind of feel abnormal at the moment because well I have been thinking about sex a lot like heaps and i feel like a freak. I guess like that's one element to an open relationship is being able to be with others and that's kind of what I keep thinking about it. God I feel like such a fucking weirdo because I want and could multiple times a day
As well as people needing to find someone on a more similar page regarding what they're into or how often.
Is it just the thought of open things that's new for you or is it also the frequency of thinking/wanting sex?
@Sarah7714 I don't know I haven't really felt like this before well not to this extent
Have you guys spoken over the past few days @j95? Hope things are a bit better.
@j95 Prior to the recent events would you have felt comfortable enough with your partner to discuss these feelings?
A little bit @Sarah7714
However, if given the opportunity in the future you really should consider exploring this other aspect of your self, it's not embarrassing and there's no harm in just seeing how things go. If you decide it's not for you then at least you know and have gained some more insight about yourself in the process
I hope things are going okay. While you are having some space, you could consider your feelings about being with different people. I agree with @Sarah7714, you may not know whether you really like that until you try.
she's in canada at the moment seeing her family but we've kind of been messaging on Facebook about what hwhat we both kind of want from here on, i want a relationship but i feel like at the moment I'm just kind of in to more casual kind of stuff, idk, i suggested something like an open relationship and she hasn't really said anything, so its still an issue but we might be able to work through it
It's good that you were able to be open with her about what you want @j95, let us know how things pan out!
