Turning Negatives Into Positives
At the suggestion of Lightuptheworld, I thought I'd start another 'Turning Negatives into Positives' thread like there is on the old forum. Below is a quote from Antria who started the thread on the previous forum which I think explains the idea of the thread quite well.
"Sometimes it can be helpful to turn our thinking around and begin to challenge the way we look at things. Turning negatives into positives is a way of doing this! Basically, think of something that happened today, this week, this month or at some other time that felt negative and see if you can find a positive in it (or that came out of it)."
I find posting in this thread really helps me to look at things in a different way or see positives that I might not have noticed if I'm in a negative headspace. I'll start the ball rolling:
Negative: My friend didn't turn up to class this morning and I was worried I would be alone because I don't really know anyone else in the class.
Positive: It gave me a chance to sit with new people and get to know them better 🙂
Over to you!
- Feeling left out of like everything, because I don't know how to join in in a consistent way.
+ I don't have to deal with other people when I don't want to if no one has any expectations or knows I exist.
Negative: I am starting to feel overwhelmed again, I have so much to do, so much to think of. I just got a 2nd job and have uni and so much to do, I feel so behind and struggling to enjoy the moment right now
Positive: 2nd job means I get a new car, laptop, phone. Become self sufficient and at a better place than I was last year. I will try and study every chance I get and get as much rest and relaxation as possible to keep me going. I CAN DO THIS!!!
Positive: its not the end of the world, I needed the sustainance
Negative: don't want to get out of bed today
Positive: I'll force myself up because I have lots to do before the last of my furniture arrives this afternoon.
Negative: so stressed out with all the moving
Positive: I'm getting through it. And I have had lots of help 🙂
Negative: today has taken a lot out of me. I'm so exhausted and it's affecting my mental health
Positive: I should get a good sleep tonight and I see my therapist in the morning to talk over any residual stress.
Pos: At least it's not my throat
Positive: it will be worth it
Negative: not looking forward to therapy tomorrow because of hos shut I've been.
Positive: it might help to talk it through.
Negative: my meds are making me put on weight.
Positive: I'll deal with it
Negative: I feel myself slipping back into bad eating patterns
Positive: I'm doing the best I can
Negative: I'm sick of my moods yoyoing
Positive: at least I'm having some ups
Negative: I have a new casemanager and I have no idea if I can contact her or what to do or what this means now. And it's been two weeks with no contact. I don't know what to do
Positive: we will work something out I'm sure.
Negative: One of my favourite animators has passed away and idk man, hittin' hard.
Positive: The community I'm in is equally upset and are all so good at supporting eachother. It's times like these that these people, that you have never met, become your family ❤️
Negative: had some weird dreams that made me really triggered.
Positive: they were just dreams
Pos. It encourages me to work towards fixing things so things don't get as bad.
neg : I can't do it
pos : I can do it
neg : I am afraid of doing it
pos : I need to against my fear , no excuses
neg : I have a lot of weaknesses
pos: I can overcome my weakness and ghange it to be my strength
P: although I already spent my money I moved my car to a free parking space a few hundred metres away and walked, got some time to think and clear my head
Positive: I see my psychiatrist today to get on stronger meds.
Positive: I haven't given in yet
Positive: I still managed to get up for food. And eventually forced myself up, to freshen up (I.e. Brush my teeth).
Negative: I screwed up. Couldn't stop myself.
Positive: I'm stuck on this one. I guess, I was able to turn around and stop.
- Something might be wrong with my physical health.
+ I've noticed and am gonna see my doc about it to find out what's up.
- Have to make an appointment.
+ At least it's practise at making appointments and all the surrounding logistics.
- Embarrassed about what I told my doc last time I saw him.
+ I spoke about things that were affecting me, and it was actually fairly common and non-embarrassing.
- I'm going to be embarrassed about talking to him about this thing too, even though it's less embarrassing than the first thing.
+ Everyone gets embarrassed about stuff and has to deal with the outcomes. It's good practise with a very limited audience.
Positive- I got through today safely
Negative- my therapist is going to be away 3 weeks following Christmas
Positive- she is going to set up another counselor to cover the times so I keep moving forward.
Positive: I can join some classes at the gym, maybe I'll meet some people that way.
Negative: had a flu for a while.
Positive: at least it's getting better.
Positive: I'm lucky I didn't do permanent damage
@ElleBelle @Bay52VU thanks
Positive: I'm alive because of it and have to keep reminding myself that that's a positive.
Negative: I really don't want to do this.
Positive: It's the last time when i m doing this as its my final assignment...
Positive: I'll get through this like I've got through all the rest.
Positive: I should level out soon and st least I'm getting some highs again.
