LGBTQ Hello's!

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@scared01 here’s some information about Demisexual: 

When describing demisexuality as an orientation to sexuals, sexuals often mistake it as an admirable choice rather than an innate orientation. Demisexuals are not choosing to abstain; they simply lack sexual attraction until a close, emotional, relationship is formed.

@gina-RO Well me and my boyfriend are staying together it’s the longest relationship we’ve both ever had

I think I made a post here before saying I identified as bi and nb, I just wanted to update that because I’ve recently realised that I’m actually a lesbian! I’m so happy about it, for the first time ever I feel safe and hopeful for my future 

thanks for the tag @mrmusic, I don't really know what to say but here we go

My name is Izzy, I'm 16, and I identify as bisexual, although I think I might be a lesbian. I like reading, and I have many gay otps such as solangelo and drarry due to the fact they make me feel represented and validated 🙂 Sadly, I live in a small town, which means minimal amounts of LGBTQ+ people, and high doses of homophobic old people. I've never met anyone from the community IRL (so forget having a girlfriend *cries lonely tears*), but I've found lots of acceptance online, especially in the Jessiepaege and Dan and Phil fandoms (you should 10/10 check out their YouTube channels). That's basically everything I guess *awkward finger guns*.

Oof big mood @annabethxchase 😂 

Heya! Thanks for this. 17 and continuing year 12 at the end of January. I don’t really associate myself with a word under the letter of the alphabet, however I am attracted to males only. I don’t really like to use the G word. I’m not exactly comfortable in my sexuality because of both my religious background and just how I grew up but I’m trying to work through. I don’t really associate myself with LGBT or pride. It’s just because I’m not exactly comfortable and I’d rather be humble about my sexuality and not be known for it. I wouldn’t shout “I’m gay” off a rooftop and neither would any of my friends shout “I’m straight” and this is where I stand in agreeance. I’d rather be known for the things that are more important. Hope this doesn’t offend anyone. 🙂 much love

- refer to my past posts for details about my past and how I’m coping 🙂

Well, I didn't even know this thread existed! Thanks for the tag @mrmusic 🙂

I'm 16 and just starting the HSC years. I've just started the coming out process, a few close friends know that I'm gay, but not much beyond that. I definitely agree with you @SS_X when you say that you'd rather be humble about your sexuality, and honestly I find it annoying that the "coming out process" has to be a thing. In saying that though, we have to give ourselves credit when we work up the courage to come out to someone. I know for me, when I was about 13-14, I promised that I would hide it FOREVER and just ignore the feelings as if they weren't there, and now I'm just realising that that's no way to live.

I personally find it really ironic that having sex is a very personal and intimate thing, yet there is so much value placed on who you're "in to" in today's society. Then I start to zooooom out of the picture, at the end of the day we're just animals roaming on Earth -- I don't know why there's so much conflict around the idea of two animals, of the same-sex, being attracted each other. What's the big deal?

I recently watched a interview with Yuval Noah Harari (Israeli historian/lecturer who has released best-selling books (which are rly rly rly good)) talking about being homosexual. Some great quotes I got out of it really got me thinking..

"When I was young, I was told that all boys are attracted to girls, and I believed that. It took me a long time to realise that this is just a story, invented by humans. And the reality is that some boys like other boys, and I happen to be one of them."

"People often say that it is 'unnatural' to be gay, that nature wanted males to love females, and females to love males, and gay people BREAK the laws of nature ... There is no such thing as unnatural behaviour. Anything that exists is, by definition, also natural."

But yeah, that's my introduction and thoughts, happy to chat here about this 😄

Hey @unwind I haven't been on here for ages, is there another topic where a lot of LGBTIQ people hang out and chat? i just want to chat to guys my age, but I'm not sure where to do so?

Thanks

Hi everyone!  I just discovered this chat and I LOVE IT!!  It's so good!!  I'm 14, I call myself bisexual, though I'm really pansexual, bi is just easier to explain.  I've been reading through this chat, there's so much encouraging stuff here!   

Hey @Ani_Faeth. Welcome to this thread - we're glad you like it - and thanks for sharing

YAY @unwind SO PROUD of you for starting that process 🙂 I know it must be hard so good on you!

I'm with you with the whole 'coming out thing' I personally don't identify as LGBTQ+ but having recently watched Love, Simon a particular scene really stuck out to me. It was Simon's friends coming out to there parents as straight. A reversal of coming out really put it in perspective for me and I realised that because LGBTQ+ isn't as big (correct me if I'm wrong) THEY have to do the tough stuff!

Thank you so much for sharing @unwind and sorry if that made no sense lol

Thank you @annabethxchase

Yeah, I totally get whatchu mean. Being straight is the norm, and therefore the expectation. Parents typically assume that their child will be attracted to the other sex, which is evidently not the case for everyone. I think "coming out" is quite challenging because, for people who don't like to break the norm or stand out (ie. myself, who suffers quite a bit with social anxiety), you've just got to break the norm. I don't think of myself as anyone special, I'm just a guy who likes other guys, but to some others I'm like a different type of human or something *shrug*.

And yeah, I LOVED that scene. It was even weird to watch it myself. I especially loved the reaction of Abby's mother . To anyone who's just crusing this thread, this is what we're talking about.

Also, I really think that the whole notion of "coming out" and "being closeted" needs to be removed from our society. If "coming out" wasn't a thing, it wouldn't be a milestone in my life, it really shouldn't be . I don't hear this view a lot, but I hope y'all see where I'm coming from. If we don't make "coming out" such an achievement in someone's life, it will stop being such a big deal, and therefore will stop making kids feel apprehensive and worried about coming out, yaknow?

Religious schools are very strange @annabethxchase haha. I go to one as well, and I get what you mean. 90 per cent of the students saying negative things about the LGBTQ+ community can't justify why they are saying negative things, the main reason being "cuz bro that's f***ed", another one being "it's Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve" , sometimes you've just gotta laugh at their reasoning. It's so unreasonable that a whole group of people are forced to experience a tougher reality with their sexuality than others because of made up stories. When Jesus founded Christianity, this was not what he had in mind haha.

And just to add the cherry on top, I placed first in Religion last semester. I found that quite amusing considering that, to many of my peers, I'm the antichrist of Catholicism 😄 😛

Mhmmm, @nyke, it's so frustrating that our own private business becomes someone else's business. I've seen a few times in my life where someone believes that another person is LGBTQ+, so it suddenly becomes their business to find out. However, if someone gives off the 'vibes' that they're straight, the others don't care!! No one says "wow, you're so straight" or "are you straight?!" I don't understand the double standard that exists here.

Also, it's nice to see that other people feel the same with regard to labels and stereotypes. When I was younger, and freaking out about the thought of being attracted to guys, I thought that all gay people were like Tyler Oakley, and I was nothing like him, so I thought that I wasn't gay... reflecting on that I can now see how confused I was.

Another thing that I find irony in is that we live in a mostly free society, in Australia at least, yet it's almost an unspoken rule to have to categorise yourself into a specific box, characterised by specific requirements. I mean I do see how these labels give people direction and confidence, but I've often sat and thought "why am I a 'gay' human? Aren't I just a human who will eventually look for another human to share my life with?" I don't see how it differs because I prefer guys, the journey and aim is ultimately the same. I dunno, I feel like I'm complaining

I was going to say something to the rest of what you said but I've gotten really tired suddenly and nEEd sleep now.

This is a great thread tho, so glad it was brought back up. I know that I rarely get the chance to express my thoughts on this topic.

It’s inspiring to know that there’s other people who feel similarly to me. I guess I’m less alone than I originally thought 🙂 ❤️