originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:16 PM

@safari93 @lanejane I guess it also depends on how geographically far you are from each other. My relationship is long-distance; being about an hour or so away from each other. Definitely agree on what boundaries/rules you have and what ways are efffective in communication too. 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:11 PM

so face to face @safari93 

 

 

what about if you're in a long distance relationship??????

 

i hadn't thought about that til just now.

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:13 PM

But yes face to face = best and probably nicest method

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:06 PM

So if we all kind of agree that's it's hard for both parties during a break up... 6.What is best way to go about a break up?

 

A way that can make it easier on both the dumper and dumpee....(or at least as easy as possible)?

 

Eg. Face to face? Via text? With a bunch of flowers?

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:16 PM

6.What is best way to go about a break up?

I have never really broken up with someone face to face, never had the opportunity to because I think then I do, I can't wait sometimes but I think the best and respectful way is to break up in person, if not then phone I think just so you can explain and maybe give them closure as well. 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:18 PM

How can you look after your physical and mental health during a break up?

I think a good cry is important, like a really good 30min cry, time yourself so you know after that 30mins then its done you can pick yourself up and keep moving. 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:18 PM

@ruenhonx hmm. i think i'd be like that too. i think and do. once i've realised it's what's best, i don't like prolonging it. i'm ready to start moving forward on my journey.

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:10 PM

What is best way to go about a break up?

Face-to-face for sure. I think that breaking up with some via phone call or text is just discourteous and cowardly. If you're the dump-er, you have the option (that leeway) to not reply, hang up, or not even call back with technology. It leaves the dump-ee feeling worse as you won't even give an answer!

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:14 PM

If face to face is really the best option (when you have the option and it's not long distance), how do you cope with it? Break up's can be really confronting because a lot of your routine changes. You can also feel pretty lonely like we all mentioned earlier. So, I guess the next question is:

 

How can you look after your physical and mental health during a break up?

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:18 PM

How can you look after your physical and mental health during a break up?

By focusing on yourself. Taking hot baths, going on walks, hanging out with friends, going to a doctor if you need to, listening to sad love songs and crying when you feel like it (just letting it out!), and setting some small goals here and there. There's also communicating clearly and honestly with the person you're breaking up with, and setting boundaries on that too. 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:22 PM

Setting boundaries with the person you're breaking up with is HUGE @Myvo and I think it's something we often forget to do. There's always that "let's still be friends" type of line but really you need to communicate with your ex about how things are going to be in the future so you're both clear with what to expect from now on.

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:24 PM

@ruenhonx a good cry can help to just let it all out (let it go, let it goooo).

 

what happens though when you can't stop the crying? we've all been there at one time or another. like, sometimes, even when you do all the right things you still can’t help but feel down after a break up.

 

Where can you go to seek additional (professional) support? (Our next "official" question)

 

 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:34 PM

Totally agree @lanejane it is good to just let it happen I think grieving depends on the individual but regardless I think it needs to be done.

Anyways guys let me go do some reading/studying 😞

Thank you for the session guys. 🙂

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:27 PM

Where can you go to seek additional (professional) support?

You can visit your local GP for a referral to a counsellor or psychologist who may specialise in relationships. There's also Relationships Australia, who do one-on-one counselling for people who have gone through break-ups too. 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:29 PM

Relationships Australia is a great one @Myvo 

 

If anyone wants a link it's:

http://www.relationships.org.au/

 

They deal with boyfriends/girlfriends/family relationships - everything!

 

Some others I would personally use might be:

 

https://www.eheadspace.org.au/

https://www.lifeline.org.au/

 

Sometimes it can be handy to talk to someone who isn't family or a friend so that you can talk freely about everything you are feeling.

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:32 PM

Qlife is a great one if you're LBGTIQ.

 

I think any of those services mentioned could help you if you were having trouble picking yourself up after a break up!

 

HMMM.

 

 

 

 

 

My next question for everyone tonight is: How soon after a break up is it okay to get back into the dating scene?

 

This is something I have dealt with personally! I started seeing my current partner like 2 days after I told someone else I wasn't ready for a relationship (oops).

 

 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:35 PM

My next question for everyone tonight is: How soon after a break up is it okay to get back into the dating scene?

That really is a tricky question. I think that whenever you feel ready and if you are deciding to see someone, it should be done respectfully in regards to your ex-partner and the person who you're interested in. There's no need to rush. It really is about reflecting and learning from your recent breakup and from yourself too. 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:37 PM

Thats a really tricky question as you said only because everyone is different and have there own pace with it

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:16 PM

How can you look after your physical and mental health during a break up?

 

 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:08 PM

Since this song has come out i've always kind of wanted to use it as a break up method.

 

 

Too bad I love my partner 😉

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:07 PM

I just answered the question before it was posted..
Wow. I can tell the future.