But it has to be purrrrfect!
Have you ever had that feeling of wanting something to be absolutely perfect? This could happen in various areas of life, for example, study, work, health, sports or creative endeavours - sometimes it just never seems to be 'good enough'.
Perfectionism has good and bad aspects. On the positive side, it might help us strive to do the best we can. But when we criticise ourselves for not being able to reach unrealistically high standards, perfectionism can become unhelpful.
On Monday 12th December at 8pm (AEDT), we'll be chatting about perfectionism, how it can affect our lives, and how to manage it if it gets in the way of what we really want!
Join us then or share your thoughts now by clicking "reply"! 
@RevzZ definitely true, I think a lot of perfectionists would prefer that there were more situation in life where that was the case 😛
What are some good things about perfectionism?
I think perfectionism helps people set high goals and ultimately make people work to the best of their ability. It helps motivate people and get them to strive for 100% in what they are doing.
@Ben-ROI think that graphic represents it well! Defs going to keep that in mind 
Flawless is a good way to put it @Alison5! Now I have that Beyonce song stuck in my head...!
some good things about perfectionism are that it can be a good motivator, driving us to do our best
Hmmm, seems like we all pretty much agree that the idea of perfect is A. not that realistic and B. very subjective, would that be right?
(An example being me misspelling the word perfect the first time in that last post, oops :P)
Also there may be a difference in whether we view ourselves as perfect or that everything we do is done perfectly
What is your idea of 'perfect'?
I agree @beesting and @Chessca_H - my ideas of perfect mainly involve absolute ideals about how a situation should go, or how something should be (which may or may not be realistic or achievable). When I was younger, my idea of 'perfect' was very rigid. I used to be very hard on myself unless I received a perfect score (eg. 100%) on an assignment or test. I like to think I've relaxed a lot since then. 
hi @loves netball! you are important but it's okay if you just wanna read as well 🙂
What is your idea of ‘perfect’?
I agree with others in that it's subjetive and based on what I think/feel - like feeling like I've done the best I could do and being satisfied with it
Perfect is almost something that is unattainable; never making a mistake of the tiniest detail - so really most people have to settle for near perfect, because making one thing absolutely perfect could take years
@Ben-RO I went looking for support elsewhere on here, but nothing so far....
that graph represents my gingerbread house - I could still be working on it and it wouldn't be perfect
@loves netball A gingerbread house sounds awesome! You should totally post a picture of it in the RO recipes thread when you're done 🙂
What are some good things about perfectionism?
While the idea of perfect often isn't attainable, having that idea in my head does sometimes help to push me to do the best I can to get closer to that idea. Plus, sometimes thinking about what things would be like if they were perfect can be a nice feeling under the right circumstances.
On my phone now because computer is inaccessible now.
My idea of perfect would be a completely flawless situation based on my own perception. So I guess there isn't really a proper universal idea of perfectionism, huh?
Hey, I'm pretty interested in this because I have family who are extreme perfectionists.
But, I am mindful of last week and I'm not someone of any significance here so maybe I'll just read
@loves netball its up to you, you're welcome here and your opinion matters a lot, just remember the different places we have for different kinds of support
Hi everyone and welcome!! Tonight we’ll be talking about perfectionism
Perfectionism can be good but sometimes it can be frustrating and get in the way of reaching our goals. Does it play a role in your life? What are positive and negative aspects of perfectionism? And how can we overcome the negative aspects?
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Okay, so first question:
What is your idea of ‘perfect’?
