Cya
Nice to know after everything I have done for this place I’m just about to be disposed like a peice of rubbish and this is exactly how it’s made me feel, like absolute shit. Does anybody have any regard for my feelings? Clearly not. Sorry to all my friends on here but unfortunately I don’t get a say and how I feel doesn’t matter and I won’t be on here after tomorrow, most likely not ever again. @FootyFan26 @DruidChild @redhead @roseisnotaplant @N1ghtW1ng
@mrmusic @scared01 thanks for being friends with me over the last 4 years. I thought this place had my back but clearly I was wrong, now I have nowhere to go and the only safe place I have in my life taken away.
and to you @Amirah-RO @gina-RO @Sophie-RO thanks a lot. that’s putting it nicely.
@j95 I agree with @scared01, I don't know the situation but I'm going to miss you a lot!! You've been such a huge part of building this community and I'm really sad to see you go 😞 You've certainly helped me a lot and been a friend to me for a couple of years now.
I wish you all the best luck in the future. I really encourage you to keep reaching out - I know it's really hard when you've had a negative experience to imagine that you'll find somewhere that's different, but everywhere has different policies and different people. Perhaps you could try the Sane or Beyond Blue forums if you need a safe place to talk?
I'm sorry that the way this situation has been handled has made you feel so unheard and alone. I really value you as a person and at the risk of repeating myself from yesterday, I'm sure that so do others in your life like your friends, siblings, and mentors. 
hey @j95, I can hear the pain you're in, and reiterate that getting some immediate support from a more appropriate service such as Mensline is probably the best idea at the moment.
Let's keep talking over email.
@j95 really feeling for you What did you do to keep yourself safe and feel better earlier today?
Hi @j95! I haven't been online for a bit, so I missed this, but now I'm here I have a bunch of things to say.
First off, no matter what I'll always consider you a part of this community. This place has always been so supportive to me and so many others, and since I joined years ago you've always been a huge part of that. Almost 22,000 posts! You've been the most active contributor to this community for so many years, and while I understand why you might want to leave, I really do hope you stay.
I'm really sorry to hear that you feel you aren't being heard and that people don't care about issues you feel to be really important, in particular indigenous culture. I want you to know that, even if no one else has heard what you've had to say, you've had a huge impact on ME, and the way I think about my country. I'm now much more conscious of indigenous culture, and how it's affected by the actions (and inactions) of me, my friends and family, and my politicians. I understand the importance of aboriginal voices in my society, and now look out for the aboriginal people in my life much more. I also now understand that the land I live on isn't mine - it belongs to the Wathaurong people. It is stolen land, and I don't think I ever really fully understood that before our conversations on here. You're a great ambassador for your culture jay, and I hope that if you do choose to leave RO, you continue to fight for indigenous rights in the other communities you belong to. As a white Australian, you've helped me to understand how alive the issue of racism is in my country, and how disgusting it is that it continues to happen - racism doesn't effect me, but it does effect you, a person I consider a friend, and because of that I've found myself time and time again speaking up when I see things that aren't okay. That's down to you mate. Thanks for educating me, and I'm sure so many others on this platform 🙂
If you do choose to leave, I want to say thanks for all the fun we've had, and also all the hard times we've helped each other through. We're going to miss you, but please know that you're ALWAYS welcome back whenever!
(I hope you stay though. You're a legend mate. Stay safe )
@DruidChild It won’t be the same going somewhere else. I’m so sorry I dont want to leave either 😞 blame the people that run this site
Nobody else values me here, that’s why I’m being kicked off.
We value you. Like I said, I've kinda been absent for a while so I don't know much about what's happened - but I can imagine that the staff are trying their best to keep you safe and do what's going to help you most in the long term.
But I'm sorry and I'm going to miss you heaps 😞 I'm going to miss hearing about your resilience and surfing and your AWESOME big-brother-ing!!
Please don't die. Mensline, KHL, SCBS, Lifeline, and your local emergency department are all there for you to reach out to and vent to Please get support; I really want to know that even if I can't speak to you that you're safe and okay.
made up reason to not let me back
The staff don’t care about my wellbeing because this has only made things
worse for me not better
I'm sorry that this has been so hard on you; I hear how tough it must be to lose your 'safe place' especially when it's a safe place that you've helped to build!
I guess one takeaway that's positive is that you know that you CAN feel safe and you CAN find communities that work for you. Leaving is always hard, and grief is a hugely painful emotion. But knowing that we can care enough about something to miss it's absence shows that we can care deeply about people and communities.
Plus, we can always start threads on any issues you think need to be talked about even if othe chats don't end up happening 🙂
Hi @j95. Thanks for tagging me in this thread.
Like the others have already said, I’m sorry that this transition is so hard from you. I ca assure you that you DO MATTER SO MUCH to this community, and it really breaks my heart that you feel otherwise. 😞 I think the advice and support that has been given above is great and shows how much you’re valued by us.
@DruidChild mentioned that this experience proves you can have a safe place. I 100% agree with this and I really encourage you to reflect on what has made ReachOut that safe space in order for you to be able to create your own safe space in your life. There are people in your life who care about you. Hold on to those people and use them to help you build your support network.
It can be hard to see the positives and the people that care when we are clouded with the distress that you have now, but please let me assure you they are there and I hope that you can recognise that.
If I don’t get a chance to reply to you again, good luck with everything! You have so many positive skills and qualities which will be useful in whatever you decide to do. You’ve got this, my friend.
PS. As long as there is a list somewhere of these chats, I’m sure they will happen. But of course we can always start a new thread at any time. 🙂
@mrmusic wrote:@DruidChild mentioned that this experience proves you can have a safe place. I 100% agree with this and I really encourage you to reflect on what has made ReachOut that safe space in order for you to be able to create your own safe space in your life. There are people in your life who care about you. Hold on to those people and use them to help you build your support network.
It can be hard to see the positives and the people that care when we are clouded with the distress that you have now, but please let me assure you they are there and I hope that you can recognise that.
Good points @mrmusic 🙂 It is hard to see positives in the moment...with reflection they will appear.
@j95 I guess that it's hard to feel misunderstood; we don't have your experience and don't know exactly what you're feeling. We are here to listen though, and I am happy to listen to everything that you're feeling right now
I don't know @j95. Perhaps there's more listening going on behind the scenes and those conversations just haven't been made available to you? Not being listened to can cause so much distress, I really feel for you
What would help you to feel listened to or understood right now, if we accept that staff may not be the best people to turn to for you tonight?
@j95 I have to log off for a bit, I'm sorry. If you're still on later I'm happy to keep listening/talking. Hugs
Hey @j95, I know things are hard for you at the moment. I want to make sure you are okay, so if you are feeling unsafe, please give Mensline or Suicide Call Back Service a call. Your safety is really important
I haven't been involved and am not completely aware of what's been going on with everything, so I'm really getting the gist of everything from what's been posted on the forums, and I'm certainly sad and sorry to see you going.
I hope you're able to get to a better place and come back at some point, because I really enjoy what you add here.
I saw also that you're going to be an uncle! Another little kid to be an awesome role model for!
