having some relationship problems :(((((
hey so in the start of november this boy from my school i liked since last year started texting me, we have never really talked much at all but we always say hi to each other. i liked him a bit since mid last year but it was never serious, but this time he asked me to hang out. we kept texting for a week but then he stopped texting me and started avoiding me at school. i thought it was because one of his friends said something bad about me. so i texted him later one night and he wrote a long paragraph basically explaining that he’s not ready for a relationship and that he is sorry. i responded kind of badly but then we talked again at school and he said he wanted to be friends still and that he’s not ready for a relationship because he has other commitments such as school and sports etc, but i wasn’t really persuaded because it was the last day of school but i didn’t say anything. i haven’t talked to him since and it’s been nearly three weeks and i miss talking to him, should i text him again or should i just leave it? i really want a relationship with him and i really like him.
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I hope you are feeling okay, and that you have had a good break from school. I think you should give him some space, and take what he said at face value. Regardless of whether he is too busy with other commitments, or he just said that as an excuse, he still does mean that he is not ready for a relationship right now. I think chasing after him might just push him away even more if you were to press forward romantically. If I were you, I would reach out in a friendly way and casually and see if things warm up from there but take it easy. You could also spend this time working on yourself through self-care and self-improvement as this break that we have is a great period to do so.
I hope things work out friend!
hi @Anzelmo , i’m feeling fine now, thank you so much! when we go back to school i’ll try talking to him again, thanks for the advice i think i’m going to learn how to love myself more before i get into any relationships! hope you are having a good day 🙂
It’s great to hear you are feeling better! And I really admire that your going to prioritise loving yourself
I'm so glad you're feeling better @iwantkrispykremedonuts! I can understand you wanting to develop a good, healthy relationship with yourself first before getting into a relationship.
I hope that talking with him goes well. 🙂
I'm so glad that you feel better and have a plan. I'm really proud of you and I hope you all the best in improving yourself, as well as venturing out into relationships. Good luck with everything friend!
Hey @iwantkrispykremedonuts this sounds really difficult. It can be so hard when you really like someone but you're not entirely sure how they're feeling or what they want. I think it might be a good idea to give it some time (I know this is easier said than done). It could be good to wait a few weeks and then reassess how you're feeling. Maybe you could text him then to see how he's feeling as well. How are you feeling about it all now?
hi @Bingo1234 ! yeah it has been a bit difficult dealing with it all in the past month but i’m doing fine now, thank you!! 🙂
@iwantkrispykremedonuts great to hear you were feeling better! How’s everything going now?
Hey so if I was in that position then I might try and hold of for a little bit just to see if maybe he needs space then try and talk to him. If he texts then maybe he was just busy or needed some time. Unfortunately I know you miss he and want to talk to him but hold off for a little bit until you find out more. If you really want to speak to him then maybe just a simple text saying "its okay if you don't want to talk I'm just letting you know I'm here". Hope this helps let me know how it all goes!
thanks for the advice @Bella2 ! i feel kinda bad because i feel like i gave him the impression that i don’t really care but i’m just really bad at expressing my feelings even though i had two chances. he’s actually a genuine guy but yeah i guess i’ll wait for a bit longer, thank you though :))
Sorry to hear that you have been feeling bad @iwantkrispykremedonuts , that must be hard. When you get a chance, it might be helpful to let him know that you didn't mean to give off the impression that you don't care, as it was just that you feel that you are bad at expressing your feelings. It might help to clear some things up and help you feel a bit better 
Hope things go okay !
hi @Sophia-RO , thank you so much for the advice, yes i’ll make sure to try to clear things up with him 🙂 and once again thank you!!
Relationships can be so hard to navigate. I hope things go well for you @iwantkrispykremedonuts! 
yeah, hopefully things workout the way i wish they would!! thank you 😊 @WheresMySquishy
Hey @iwantkrispykremedonuts it's nice to hear from you again! I really hope your holidays are treating you well
It's nice to hear that you are feeling a bit better with everything now, were you able to clear things up with him after our last chat with you? Sometimes holding a friendship in place and pushing past your feelings for the moment is better than losing it all together, but it doesn't mean it's any easier You sound like you have lifted up your spirits, and I hope it all works out for you in the future as well!
