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The Troubleshooter

Troubleshooting is actually a pretty complicated thing. Nerds like me absolutely love it.

 

Here's my troubleshooting process for anything that breaks in my house.

 

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I didn't say i was very good at troubleshooting....

 

We can often do the same thing for our brains - although i strongly advise not using Tape or WD-40 on your brain :P.

 

This is a thread to troubleshoot tough times, to use this thread you have to do three things.

 

1. Post the problem - it can be anything

2. Tell us what you want to stop or get moving again - or what you would like things to be like. 

3. Tell us what you'd like help with - it's okay to have nooo idea where to start.

4. While you wait for some help, go help someone else with their step 3 by asking them how you can help. 

 

For example:

 

1. The problem: I don't like my current haircut.

2. What i'd like help with- Figuring out what to do with my current haircut, i just wish my hair didn't look like an angry duck.

3. I would like some help finding men's wigs, or learning to accept that my hair is going to take a while to grow.

 

This is a kind of experimental thread, so let me know what you think about it too 🙂

 

 

 

Ben-RO
Ben-ROPosted 23-01-2017 12:20 PM

Comments

 
soph1345
soph1345Posted 20-03-2021 10:15 PM

hey there!

 
Jorge363663
Jorge363663Posted 13-03-2019 07:54 PM

I may or may not of replied to them using some obscene language when I had my cranky pants on last night, oops....

//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave// 
 
 
NR2045
NR2045Posted 20-11-2019 11:34 PM

I have extremely bad ptsd and over the years i've learnt certain techniques that helped me, what happens when they don't cut it anymore. 

 

// fear doesn't get you, you get the fear//

 
 
 
Jess1-RO
Jess1-ROPosted 21-11-2019 11:24 AM

Hi @NR2045,

We would really like to explore the idea of techniques for coping with you more, it sounds like you have been working on some for a while now. I have just replied to your post over here to ask about what works for you Heart

 
 
 
 
Not-me
Not-mePosted 12-12-2019 05:18 AM

My boyfriend has recently been getting high very frequently and I'm worried its getting serious. He won't listen to me when I tell him its worrying me or that I don't like it. He just tells me he'll be careful but I'm scared he might hurt himself. I really need help, but I'm not sure what i should say or do to let him know I'm there, and that I think this is really dangerous.

 
 
 
 
 
Bre-RO
Bre-ROPosted 12-12-2019 09:23 AM

Hey @Not-me 

 

Welcome to ReachOut! I'm really glad that you thought of coming to a community like this to get some support. It can definitely be concerning when someone you care about is getting high frequently. It's really positive that you want to be a support person Heart 

 

We actually have an article here on How to help a friend with drug addiction. It has some really helpful tips on how to approach the situation as well as some link to support services if that's something your boyfriend wants. 

 

In the meantime, what can you do to look after yourself? Do you practise any form of self-care? Heart 

 

 

 
 
 
 
 
DanOstin
DanOstinPosted 03-07-2020 04:27 PM

Thanks for link

 
OliviaBenson
OliviaBensonPosted 15-05-2018 12:31 PM

I think that's super cool....so here's my problem I recently came out as Bi and like my best friend, I don't know if I should just tell her or if I should not because it may ruin the friendship. Any suggestions.

 
 
Lola-RO
Lola-ROPosted 15-05-2018 12:37 PM

Hi @OliviaBenson and welcome to ReachOut Smiley Happy

 

Just letting you know I've deleted a duplicate post of yours in this thread, and moved your original post to here where it will be seen.

 
 
 
OliviaBenson
OliviaBensonPosted 15-05-2018 01:00 PM

Cool thanks heapsSmiley Happy

 
mist
mistPosted 29-03-2017 09:12 PM
Hello everybody, this is my first time on here. Druid child, I really feel for what you're going through, and I know it's not much consolation, but you are definitely not alone. This kind of thing where governments want to cut and slash all these social programs that are designed to help people try to be able to get back on their feet, it's horrible and I question whether it is really absolutely necessary to do that , or is there some other way of trying to balance the budget rather than hurting people who are already struggling???? And I actually am not from Australia, I came across this website and decided to check it out, I live in the USA and as you can imagine, everyone in my country, in one way or another, is going insane and we are all really tense, because Trump somehow managed to become our President and NO ONE really likes him at ALL, even a lot of the Republicans don't really like him or agree with everything he says or does, and I sure as hell did NOT vote for him and the latest headline is that he wants to cut a lot of social programs, so if he doesn't FINALLY get himself impeached in a month or so, I am making plans to move to another country in a few months, probably by June or July. But don't start feeling suicidal or taking things so personally that really are not about you at all, it's a government business decision, and you are a child of God and you have every right to live your life the way you want to and you have as much of a voice as anyone else on this planet, so speak up and use it!!! I am going through hell myself, I live in a small, one bedroom apartment and right now, the managers of this building want to come after me, they want to charge me $92 in late fees all because I paid my rent one day late!!!!! I've always paid my rent in time before, I'm a good tenant, I paid it late because I happened to have a couple of appointments that day and then I felt sick, I tried to explain this to the manager and that I really don't have that money to give to her and I'm very broke myself but no, she's out to get some blood money, she doesn't care and I'm not getting anywhere with her. I just don't understand why some people seem to enjoy kicking around anyone they possibly can.
 
 
letitgo
letitgoPosted 31-03-2017 01:23 PM

Hey @mist and welcome to ReachOut! Just so you know, ReachOut is specifically for people in Australia aged 14-25, and because you're from America, a lot of the info on here might not be relevant to you. However, you can find a list of local resources in the United States here.

 

Wishing you the best of luck with everything! Smiley Happy

 
j95
j95Posted 25-01-2017 02:23 PM
Mensline emailed me back so I guess it's sorted/troubleshooted
 
 
Ben-RO
Ben-ROPosted 25-01-2017 05:32 PM

Replied in your thread on this issue @j95 🙂

 
DruidChild
DruidChildPosted 24-01-2017 11:19 AM

1. My family's government payments got cut, which means we can't afford the basics anymore and my mum might have to leave uni and get a job. This is making me feel extremely anxious and hopeless and I've started researching suicide methods again. 

 

2. I want the government to stop being horrible and useless, but that's pretty unrealistic since being horrible and useless is basically it's entire job. I want our family to get enough income to support ourselves without my mum having to compromise her long term financial stability. 

 

3. I want help figuring out what I can do to help this situation. 

 

4. @j95, I'm sorry they were so unhelpful and dismissive, it sounds really hurtful 😞 I was wondering whether they breached their duty of care that they have on their website? (https://www.mensline.org.au/about-us/duty-of-care) Because if you could show them that they'd broken their duty of care you might have a better chance of getting an apology?

 
 
Ben-RO
Ben-ROPosted 24-01-2017 03:33 PM

@DruidChild

 

Gee that's tough! It's so stressful when you have a plan and suddenly the finances shift and everything loses stability!

 

Have you ever spoken to a Centrelink Social worker? Sometimes they can help with sorting out payments and often you might be eligible for different kinds of support that you and your family might not know you could apply for.

 

https://www.humanservices.gov.au/customer/services/social-work-services

 

I think you also mentioned thinking about getting a job but that mental health stuff meant that this might be too much. Would this be something you want to explore though? There are some pretty good organisations out there that are set up to support people to find a job they can do in a way they can do it. So for example making sure it's okay to have extra time off if you need to, different ways to work etc etc.

 

With all that, yep @loves netball still has a good point, sometimes we can't fix all the things and we have to accept the things we can't change.

 

AND good stuff on keeping yourself safe and taking some steps to distract 🙂

 

 

 

 
 
 
DruidChild
DruidChildPosted 24-01-2017 03:55 PM

@Ben-RO 

 

Thanks for the social worker link! I'll check it out and show my mum the link as well, she might be able to use the service more than me. My plans don't need to change, luckily, mostly I just feel really bad for my mum because the whole reason she has to do her study now is because she stayed home with me and my siblings for 19 years. 

 

Right now working part time would be too much, I'm not even sure if I'll be able to cope with full time study. Last semester I did like four hours of work a week and just that was too much. Also I'm qualified to do child care work and I really don't want to do child care work because some of my intrusive thoughts would make it hell for me. BUT if I could get a job on my uni campus, like at some food place or something, I'd consider that. 

 

Yep. Sometimes I can't change things, I definitely can't change the past, and I'm trying to remember that I am not responsible for my parents' life and parenting decisions.

 

I didn't go so well with the distraction but oh well, I'm okay. 

 

 
 
 
 
letitgo
letitgoPosted 28-01-2017 03:45 PM

hey @DruidChild could part time study be an option as opposed to full time study?

 
 
 
 
 
DruidChild
DruidChildPosted 28-01-2017 04:23 PM

Thanks @letitgo, unfortunately it's not an option as I need to be studying full time to qualify for youth allowance Smiley Indifferent But it was a good suggestion, thank you 🙂

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 09-07-2017 09:07 PM
hmm so at the moment i'm wanting to go up to see/meet my family in the northern territory, problem is access, its going to cost me upwards of $1000 to rent a car from the airport to get there and have it for say 1 week, and i won't even be using it, only to get to and from the airport
 
 
 
 
 
FootyFan26
FootyFan26Posted 09-07-2017 09:22 PM
Would there be the possibility of calling a taxi or arranging for someone to pick you up @j95?
 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 09-07-2017 09:23 PM
yeah i don't know anybody there and its a three and a bit hour drive @FootyFan26 😕
 
 
 
 
 
FootyFan26
FootyFan26Posted 09-07-2017 09:25 PM
Would you be able to calculate which is cheaper? A hire car or a taxi.

Also if you had a hire car you'd be able to do a bit more exploring but if you're not planning on traveling the NT in that while then maybe organising something else would be helpful.

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