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I have too much going on rn and I'm finding it really difficult Smiley Sad

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Hey @roseisnotaplant, here to listen. What's going on for you?

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I just have a lot of appointments and things that I should have done that I haven't done and I've missed so much school because of my depression and CFS and my friends are being annoying and I feel guilty about making mum and dad so worried, and then there are other things that I could normally deal with like the postal survey and politicians being stupid and bits of homework but on top of all the other stuff I just can't and AHGHHAGHGAHGA. In a word.

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"AHGHHAGHGAHGA" in a word sounds fair enough. Smiley Very Happy

Right now there's so much going on for you no wonder you are overwhelmed. It's honestly one of the most frustrating feelings! Out of those particular things - which one is weighing on your mind at most? Let me know then we can all work out some strategies with the communities help Smiley Happy

@roseisnotaplant

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I guess the most immediate thing is all the appointments I have. I've been to the GP and a paediatrician and had a blood test all within the last few days, and tomorrow I see my psych and OT, and it's really emotionally draining to go to all these things over and over (plus I don't really like socialising at the best of times, so going over heavy stuff with random strangers all the time is not my jam). I've also had a really hard couple of weeks, so I've kind of gone backwards in terms of stuff that they wanted me to do. Like everyone wants me to get back to doing half days at school, but I've barely gotten out of the house except for appointments in the last few weeks. And my psych wanted me to write down what I'm feeling when I'm feeling really down, which on paper sounds great, but doesn't work practically because when I'm feeling like that I don't want to do anything, let alone pull out pen and paper and try and make coherent sentences. Plus my paediatrician wanted me to start like this diary thing which I also haven't done. Like I understand that all these things are supposed to help me feel better but right now they're just sort of adding to the level of stress.

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Hey @roseisnotaplant I reckon the psych will understand that it's a form of self care that you didn't get to do the journalling for them. If it's adding pressure to your schedule, I think the psych will back you this time on not doing your homework Smiley Happy What do you reckon? 

I am kind of hearing that it's hitting you hard mentally and emotionally these appointments, do you have an hour window you could just sit with yourself for meditation, bath, yoga, walk etc? Even half an hour? Let me know. I will tag some other members too Smiley Happy

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Yeah, I mean they will understand and I don't think it will be a biggie, but I still feel bad about it. I haven't been super great about doing self care stuff like you suggested - I mostly just scroll through YouTube or Twitter or whatever, which generally isn't super helpful, so I'll try something else tomorrow. Thanks @Bree-RO Smiley Happy

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I do the same. I have been really bad at getting sucked into old episodes of Oprah on youtube like from 1989 Smiley Indifferent But if you can, even start with 10 mins of these guys. And let me know how you go Smiley Happy @roseisnotaplant

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I can relate to the stress of numerous appointments. It does get overwhelming trying to fit everything in, but you can only do the best you can. Your team should understand you have a lot on. Talk to them and say "I can't do X or Y. Could I do it some other way?" It's hard at first, but it gets easier over time. Instead of writing stuff down, for example, what about a video or artwork? We do have lives outside appointments and sometimes I feel this is forgotten! 

 

It can be hard for those who arent sick to understand what it's like to live with chronic illnesss on a daily basis, but you know how you feel. If others don't understand, it's not your problem and you don't have to spend all your time educating them. Focus on the people who do understand such as your parents and keep communicating. It's hard not to feel guilty or like you aren't trying when you can't follow the plan, but be honest about fears and frustrations and see if you can give it a go. Sometimes our own fears and anxieties regarding changes to treatment can be worse than attempting the treatment itself and once we've tried, we find it's not so bad. If you've tried and it's still not working, tell them. There are always other options.

 

You'll get there. It's exhausting and often unpredictable, but illness often brings out the best in people. Relationships become stronger and you develop a wonderful sense of humour because why cry when you can laugh at the challenges? 

 

Hang in there. You're doing a good job! 😀

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hi @roseisnotaplant, I can really hear how hard things are for you, especially the added stress of having to do all this journalling. It's much easier said than done Smiley Mad 

Goodluck with all your appointments todaySmiley Happy