Self compassion
I find being kind to myself really hard. I need to learn some self compassion.
I'm making this thread so I can post stuff and turn it around into self compassion.
For example.
I really wanted to sh today
Self compassion - I did really well not to act on the urge and I've come a long way.
SC - even though everything feels hard I'm still fighting and I'm asking for help. I can do this, I'll get back on track again.
I have so much going on in my life right now but I'm doing my best and I'm really proud of that it's been nearly 2 months since I've hurt myself.
@redhead and @mrmusic I am so proud of you both 
I'm a horrible, immoral, messy person who doesn't belong anywhere; I don't deserve to live or recover or be healthy ever.
Self compassion: Health and recovery are human rights and I am human so I deserve them too. I don't love myself right now but I am still capable of loving others and that's what's most important to me.
I've tried to be gentle with myself about this, bad days can happen and it doesn't mean that I'm a bad person or bad to square one. I've been doing some colouring in and I've started to make a beaded Christmas tree with beading wire and seed beads which has given me something to focus on 🙂
But I've just been taking it one day at a time, one hour, just trying to get through. Things will improve eventually...
BUT I got through it and I even felt good later that night. Those negative thoughts are WRONG and although I can't accept that at times, especially during meltdowns, I am getting better at ignoring them.
A couple of days ago I was involved in a local community event and I wasn't able to execute everything perfectly. I spent most of yesterday morning feeling really ashamed, disappointed and angry with myself over how the night had gone, and it just made an already exhausting morning with the family even harder to deal with.
But I got through these feelings, and was able to spend some good time with my family. And I didn't do that badly anyway. If other people have a problem with it, that's their problem more than mine.
that made me feel better reading through them Negative thoughts running rampant. Will they stop? I don't know.
They're wrong. Because I rule. No matter how many times I or other people need to tell me.
In reading a more detailed job description today I felt inadequate and underprepared to even think about taking the role on. I started to doubt my abilities. But I remembered my old employment consultant and her love of inspirational quotes which she put behind her desk. I also remembered a conversation we had about it still being worth applying even if you don't necessarily meet ALL of the criteria...
its alright, i've got some really good self-care going on wish is really helping distract me 🙂 movies are heroes in disguise
Incredible reframe @DruidChild, the second is definitely the case Well done. We value you exceptionally so.
I have been feeling bad about myself for how I feel within the community around me, but being able to seek people with similar interests has helped me, and help out be a little better with social anxiety.
I’ve been linking quite a few people to this wonderful thread (thanks again to @redhead for making it!), and I’m going to set myself a challenge. Every time I link to this thread, I’m going to do some self-compassion myself. So we’ll see how I go! 🙂
I’ve been really worried about my prac hours ever since uni told me that some of them wouldn’t count, but I know that I am developing my skills at an appropriate level, and the feedback from my supervisor has been good, so I just need to accept what is and only work on what I can control.
Self- compassion is something that I realised over time. I remember when I was in first year of University I was very harsh on myself whenever I got a grade lower to what I had expected. Half the time I was stressed and was just focusing on reaching perfection. I really exhausted myself mentally and started to build up frustration. The end result too was nothing but a lowered morale and loss of motivation. However, with time I realised that there was no point taking too much pressure at such a young age knowing that it was just my first year and I was still learning and adapting to a new environment. And I also asked myself if I wanted to remember 'mental exhaustion' from my undergrad days or the 'wholesome' experience, that mostly people have from their University. This made me realise that I need to be kind to myself 🙂
I didn't get as far as I wanted with applying for music therapy jobs today. I didn't get any letters drafted or phone calls made.
But I did make a list of places that I want to approach, so some progress was made regardless, and I worked on other things that I needed to do, so the time was well spent.
This is such an awesome thread. It's such a good reminder to treat ourselves with the same love, care, support and compassion we show others
Practical Tips For Developing Self-Compassion:
- Create a self-compassion mantra that you can say to yourself when you are struggling (does anyone have one they'd like to share?)
- When you notice yourself speaking negatively ask yourself if you would speak to your bestie like that.
- Reflect on the negative self-talk that you've noticed and look for any common themes, like is it related to past experiences, or a tendency to set unrealistic expectations for yourself?
- Try some relaxation exercises
- Make sure you make time for the things you love (seeing friends, reading a book, singing in the car etc)
i have been feeling very out of sorts and 'lost' in the world as well as within myself as well. trying to discover who i am what i want to do etc and have been really hard on myself however what ive realised is being lost isnt always a bad thing. its just another stepping stone in recovery and really its allowing me time to explore, think, and really create who i am and make my own path.
thanks @Erin-RO i seem to have a lot of lightbulb moments like these even in the pits like last night so will continue to share might help others too
Yesterday, I performed quite badly at work, and while I wasn't spoken to, it kind of spoilt my evening. But I'm doing my best, and I'm getting better at dealing with the bad days, and today was a good day at work.
