Turning Negatives Into Positives
At the suggestion of Lightuptheworld, I thought I'd start another 'Turning Negatives into Positives' thread like there is on the old forum. Below is a quote from Antria who started the thread on the previous forum which I think explains the idea of the thread quite well.
"Sometimes it can be helpful to turn our thinking around and begin to challenge the way we look at things. Turning negatives into positives is a way of doing this! Basically, think of something that happened today, this week, this month or at some other time that felt negative and see if you can find a positive in it (or that came out of it)."
I find posting in this thread really helps me to look at things in a different way or see positives that I might not have noticed if I'm in a negative headspace. I'll start the ball rolling:
Negative: My friend didn't turn up to class this morning and I was worried I would be alone because I don't really know anyone else in the class.
Positive: It gave me a chance to sit with new people and get to know them better 🙂
Over to you!
I feel a little bit better today @N1ghtW1ng, thanks 🙂 My anxiety was just really bad yesterday and then I melted down majorly when the electricity went out because of the rain and we had to leave class early. I'm thinking about going to this queer youth drop in place today so I'll see how I go. 🙂
Neg: So I missed a bunch of school because I've been sick for the last few weeks, and all my teachers have been really good about catching me up and giving me extensions and stuff, except for my maths teacher, who seems to think that I'm not way behind everyone else and that I don't need more time before the assessment, and that I totally understand everything that I haven't been there for. How am I supposed to know all the formulas and stuff if I haven't been taught? Ugh.
Pos: My super awesome house leader intervened and got me an extension on the assessment. I still don't really know how straight lines work, but at least I have the weekend and the internet to try and teach myself before the test.
I believe in your ability @roseisnotaplant! You can learn the things!
Negative: I should have booked this thing I wanted to go to on April first back when I first saw it I realised I wanted to go, because now it's booked out. I was really excited for the idea of it.
Positive: I hadn't booked it because I didn't know if I'd actually be able to go, which I still don't know. I can't blame myself for being cautious before paying that much money. That I now definitely can't do it frees up all of my options of March 31st. And they'll definitely run it again, so I can do it later in the year when it's offered. Or next year, at worst.
Negative: I emailed a department of my uni to get them to approve something, and after they did that I got told by another department that I actually can't do that so need to emailed first department again to ask for permission for my second choice. I feel silly emailing them again. It doesn't make any sense that I have to email when they approval should really be transferable because if I had room to do the first thing, then of course I have room to do the second since it takes up the same amount ugh
Positive: An email takes no time at all. It's probably happened tons of times before. They would know it isn't a me thing, but a uni or second department thing. And as was proven by my first choice, I know this one will be approved.
Negative: I didn't stand up for my idea/understanding in a group task on Monday, instead I let everyone else in the team persuade me. We ended up losing a point because of this, because that answer was wrong, and while mine wasn't exactly right if I'd stuck to it we would have ended up with the right answer.
Positive: This is really just a lesson that I need to trust in myself and my knowledge more, and to not be so afraid of being the voice of dissent in the group. It's a lesson only worth like, 2% of my overall mark. It's alright. Uni is for learning and this is a learning experience.
Negative: Nothing I wanted to/planned to do today worked out.
Positive: The first, or major, thing isn't my fault. Can't hold myself accountable for electricity outages. After that, I was so tired, and I really can't expect myself to have remembered something 1. when I was in that state and 2. when I had already discarded it from my mind a bit from believing that I couldn't do it.
And okay, while there are a couple of other things that I didn't do when I then realised I could have (picking up thing from uni, going to medicare, getting a bloodtest) none of those were things I originally meant to do today anyway. I can do them any day. And I still have the rest of the night to get some uni things done. I'll have a new thing for dinner. I sent off applications for quite a few things. Today doesn't have to go down as a complete waste.
Negative: There's a fair bit of difference between what I want to be happening in my life and what is actually happening in my life right now in a few different areas
Positive: Some of that stuff is out of my hands, but what I can do is focus on the things I can change and work towards making them better in the best way I know how
Today has started of awful, trying to get back to Melbourne after staying the night in Geelong and my card wouldn’t work at the train station so couldn’t buy a new myki (I left mine at my friends house). So I got upset at the station, I started crying I never ever cry in public especially not about the stupid train, but I needed to get back to in time to see my brother. A lady came up and asked me what was wrong, I told her I needed to get back to Melbourne, and she gave me her spare myki and some cash to put on it. Went to money on at the machine and it had expired, the train was coming so didn’t have time to worry about it, so I’m on the train hoping the people accept the $10 if I tell them I didn’t have time to put money on my Myki card. So the positive is that the a lovely lady gave me her spare card and I am on the train, hopefully I get there in time to see my brother before he leaves.
@j95 that sounds really hard mate, where abouts are you now? Here to listen.
I was on the train when I posted that but I got there in time and they didn’t even check the stupid myki card @Bree-RO
Neg: was about to get real mad at work was about to go off
pos: managed to somehow keep my cool and walk away for a minute
Pos: it's ok, it's ok
Pos - There's tomorrow I guess.
Pos: lol I fucking deserve stuoid idiot
That's heavy general stuff, what's been the start of these thoughts today? You have been good for quite a bit this week just wondering if something has cropped up? @j95
