Turning Negatives Into Positives
At the suggestion of Lightuptheworld, I thought I'd start another 'Turning Negatives into Positives' thread like there is on the old forum. Below is a quote from Antria who started the thread on the previous forum which I think explains the idea of the thread quite well.
"Sometimes it can be helpful to turn our thinking around and begin to challenge the way we look at things. Turning negatives into positives is a way of doing this! Basically, think of something that happened today, this week, this month or at some other time that felt negative and see if you can find a positive in it (or that came out of it)."
I find posting in this thread really helps me to look at things in a different way or see positives that I might not have noticed if I'm in a negative headspace. I'll start the ball rolling:
Negative: My friend didn't turn up to class this morning and I was worried I would be alone because I don't really know anyone else in the class.
Positive: It gave me a chance to sit with new people and get to know them better 🙂
Over to you!
Pos: I've got started on some of them and it's not as though they are due next week! 🙂
Neg: Really don't want to go back to that section!
Pos: at least I won't be working in that part of the industry!
Neg: feel like I won't get the stuff done!
Pos: I'll talk to my supervisor
Positive: I haven't given in to their demands
Negative: my aunts cancer spread to the lymph nodes.
Positive: they think they got it all with surgery, and she is having keamo and radiation to make sure they get it all.
Negative: not coping tonight
Positive: spoke to staff and mental health team about it, which is unlike me.
Negative - Feeling sick and my energy levels have dropped since I got back from holiday
Positive - Criminal Minds Marathon 🙂
Negative: Sick and not sleeping
Positive: I'm home, resting and relaxing
Negative: I'm missing out on so much school work!
Positive: It's not that much work - I'll catch up easily enough. And at the end of the day it won't even matter. My health comes first 🙂
Positive: at least I had a high. And I'm hoping to stay safe through this crash.
Positive: I've been managing the pain and being very aware of how I move my wrist, and keeping it really warm! 🙂
I admire the way you are always looking for the bright side. You're one of the most determined people I know on RO! Im sure it will get you through this down time. Take care. 
blithe
Neg: I have had a very busy week and am feeling a little behind on things
Pos: i have started catching up and even get to spend some time on the RO forums today which makes me really happy 🙂
Positive: I had to defer my exams but now have more time to study for them!
Positive: my friends will be done soon and I can spend time with them. In the meanwhile I can clean my room, occupy myself with books. Message some friends, talk to my family on Skype. I'm also going groceries with a friend tomorrow.
Negative: My headspace has been in a bad palce today.
Positive: I've been using skills I know to help me and tonight I'm seeking help off services I trust.
Negative: I'm super stressed about a group presentation that has been really hard to organise and I'm all scattered for the pres on Tuesday.
Positive: Only a few more days and it will be over!
Negative: Feel like I am falling behind on my placement already 😞
Positive: It's only been one week so there is still plenty of time for me to get back on track.
@Chessca_H you can do it!!! 🙂
Negative: i have finshied an assignment thats 4000 words long
Positive: Its been alot easier than i thought!
@EloiseRose Thanks for the encouragement, just getting it started made me feel so much better 🙂
Good luck with the 4000 word assignment!
Negative: Haven't had the chance to get any work on my assessments today, nor I have I had the chance to figure out what I need to take interstate with me tomorrow when I go on a trip to visit family.
Positive: I've been working fairly consistantly on my assessment. I still have time. I did spent about half an hour talking about the assessments helping M with a few queeries she had, so it's not as though I've done nothing!
Negative: Dad's been rather angry and verbal tonight, it's made me feel a bit negative 😞
Positive: I don't have to let his bad mood affect me.
Negative: A part of me is not looking forward to travelling interstate....
Positive: It's only a few days. I WILL work through the discomfort which brings the worry. I WILL BE FINE! 🙂 It's also a good oppourtunity for me to see my young cousins again 🙂
negative: My three weeks of friends visiting have finished 😞
Positive: i have so many awesome memories
Negative: i have a 4000 word essay due in two weeks
Positive: Challenge accepted? 😕 haha. This will be fun!
Pos: I got up, out of bed and did my best to get through the day and hopefully I will get better soon.
On a very small note, the basketball courts were booked so I couldn't shoot around but..
It means I have time to jump onto ReachOut for a bit.
I may as well start posting now I've read RO for a while now 🙂
Negative: I've had a look at the class lists for school, nman any of my friends in my classes, will be a interesting year.
Positive: There is one friend in m class, at least I'll be able to chat with them. And I might make some new friends.
Negative: I haven't been feeling well the past week.
Positive: I feel just about fine now, getting ready for first day back at school tomorrow.
Pos: We get tickets replaced to go to another session AND I get to go to the indoor movies tonight with my mum and sister anyway! yay!
Hi, I'm new here. I think this is a fantastic thread. I have been trying to do this lately-
I've heard that for each negative, try to think of three positives (It's hard!) but it really puts things into perspective.
Negative: My car got smashed while it was parked on the street.
Positive: I wasn't in the car at the time, thank goodness!
Positive: The guy who hit my car did the right thing and called the police, who in turn contacted me (He didn't hit and run)
Positive: The guy was driving a comany car so he had insurance and they (eventually) paid up!
Negative: My fiance and I broke up (it happened a few years ago, and it still hurts sometimes. I thought he was The One).
Positive: I was strong enough to leave when I realised it couldn't be fixed and he wasn't the man I fell in love with.
Positive: I know what my deal-breakers are now. I've also learned more about myself.
Positive: I love writing song lyrics and I've written 5 songs about him. It hurt me but at least I made someting constructive and creative out of it.
It's so easy to dwell on the negatives in life. I still do it a lot, but I'm trying my best not to. I'm a pessimist who is trying so hard to be an optimist. Maybe one day it will come naturally!
