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Turning Negatives Into Positives

At the suggestion of Lightuptheworld, I thought I'd start another 'Turning Negatives into Positives' thread like there is on the old forum. Below is a quote from Antria who started the thread on the previous forum which I think explains the idea of the thread quite well.

 

"Sometimes it can be helpful to turn our thinking around and begin to challenge the way we look at things. Turning negatives into positives is a way of doing this! Basically, think of something that happened today, this week, this month or at some other time that felt negative and see if you can find a positive in it (or that came out of it)."

 

I find posting in this thread really helps me to look at things in a different way or see positives that I might not have noticed if I'm in a negative headspace. I'll start the ball rolling:

 

Negative: My friend didn't turn up to class this morning and I was worried I would be alone because I don't really know anyone else in the class.

Positive: It gave me a chance to sit with new people and get to know them better 🙂

 

Over to you!

delicatedreamer
delicatedreamerPosted 08-08-2012 03:02 PM

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redhead
redheadPosted 28-11-2018 10:55 PM
@Lan-RO im not ok. i can deal with them anymore. i just called lifeline which was useless, and now the aliens are angry
 
 
 
 
 
Lan-RO
Lan-ROPosted 28-11-2018 11:04 PM

HI @redhead I'm sorry to hear Smiley Sad, good on you for reaching out though. I'm about to log off but just wanted to suggest contacting KHL or SCBS if you require further support tonight Heart

 
 
 
 
 
Beautifullybroken
BeautifullybrokenPosted 29-11-2018 06:56 PM
neg: been feeling really anxious lately.
pos: I'm listening to some positive music right now, I am feeling better.

@redhead hope you're ok. Sending you virtual hugs <3.
 
 
 
 
 
Bee
BeePosted 29-11-2018 09:49 PM
Negative: Have had an influx of anxiety and self-descructive thoughts recently
Positive: I've managed through them all, sure I feel bad, but I'm alive and I'm fighting them!

Neg: Reached out to KHL tonight through web but it crashed again just as we got talking about a really hard issue. Blergh
Pos: I tried to reach out. I kinda feel a bit better just by having them acknowledge that everything that's contributing to my mood and anxiety is a LOT to deal with.
Pos: From that I can try to refocus my mind
 
 
 
 
 
Erin-RO
Erin-ROPosted 29-11-2018 10:01 PM

Awesome re-framing @Bee especially in the face of the web chat crashing!! That must have added some frustration but it seems like it's helped to refocus things Heart

 
 
 
 
 
Bee
BeePosted 29-11-2018 10:14 PM
Thanks @Erin-RO
 
 
 
 
 
Beautifullybroken
BeautifullybrokenPosted 03-12-2018 06:08 PM
neg:feeling overwhelmed
pos: feeling a bit less overwhelmed. listening to some music.
neg: I didn't feel very well rested when I woke up this morning. Had a really bad migraine upon wakening.
pos: I've been focusing on self-care.
 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 03-12-2018 09:49 PM
Neg. I didn't die last night.
Pos. Idk
 
 
 
 
 
Jay-RO
Jay-ROPosted 04-12-2018 10:44 AM

That's fantastic re-framing @Beautifullybroken, I'm glad that even though you're feeling overwhelmed, you've been able to focus on some self-care 🙂 I hope you are feeling better today.

 
 
 
 
 
Bee
BeePosted 05-12-2018 12:05 PM

Neg: my foot hurts a little after wearing a shoe for a bit and walking. I think I'm scared to transition out of the moonboot...

Positive: I've spent some time in a shoe and it feels tight, maybe I need a bigger pair of shoes? Maybe I jeed to loosen the laces even more. Maybe I just need to get used to being out of the boot.

 

Neg: I think I'm worried about injuring my foot again or being in pain. Also the boot protects the foot so maybe I'm worried about it not being as protected as I have an area which still had decreased sensation... I could also be worried about a couple tings the surgeon said about my xray

Pos: I know that the things the surgeon mentioned aren't huge issues. He is hapoy for me to come out of the boot so that is all that matters. I just have to tell my brain that yes I'm worried about them, but they aren't hige issues. It's totally okay that I'm feeling scared and anxious to come out of the boot. I've had my foot and ankle protected for a over 3 months, so naturally I'm going to be protective of it. My friends have validated my feelings ahout some of this and that has helped. I might just air it with my psychologist along with everything else inside my head right now when I see her tomorrow 🙂

 
 
 
 
 
Beautifullybroken
BeautifullybrokenPosted 05-12-2018 07:09 PM
@Jay-RO unfortunately my sleep was disturbed again.
neg: I'm so sleepy and my head hurts.
pos: I'm taking it easy today. I'll go to bed early. Relax with essential oil. Probably message my temples a little.
 
 
 
 
 
mrmusic
mrmusicPosted 05-12-2018 07:11 PM

Awesome strategies and reframing! @Beautifullybroken

 
 
 
 
 
litgym
litgymPosted 05-12-2018 07:22 PM

neg: decided to throw my phone across the room onto my bed and then throw a container as well. and i cracked my screen yay ! 

pos: don’t do it again ? 

 

neg: i feel like shitttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt and veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy over lifeeeeeeeeeeeee

pos: ive made it this far

 
 
 
 
 
Jay-RO
Jay-ROPosted 06-12-2018 09:33 AM

That's unfortunate @Beautifullybroken 😞 It sucks to not get a good sleep at night. Would you like to make a thread about it? I'm sure many other users could relate to having trouble sleeping 🙂 As @mrmusic said, you've done some awesome reframing, I hope the strategies helped you.

Ha you should see my poor phone @litgym, a cracked screen is a minor injury 🙂 You have made it this far and that's something to be proud of 🙂 You've done an awesome job reframing, how are you feeling today?

 
 
 
 
 
litgym
litgymPosted 06-12-2018 12:04 PM

haha i dropped my old phone down a drain at the start of this year oops ! @Jay-RO

im feeling quite unwell 😕 but im in the city which is good i guess and i have gym later

 
 
 
 
 
Bee
BeePosted 06-12-2018 10:36 PM
Neg: I'm feeling really sad now because my cold drink was knocked over by the cat when mum got too close to us as I was cuddling and playing with her and she got scared because of space and jumped knocking my drink over 😞
Pos: Nothing was broken so that's good, and kitty is okay, she's playing with her toy still but argh
Pos: I'm allowed to feel sad that I lost my cold drink...

Neg: This reminds me of everything else inside my head right now... It's a lot. I don't want to get into it
Pos: I've done well today to get through my psychologist appointment and engage despite difficult topics mentioned.

Neg: I remembered I have an early dentist appointment tomorrow, and I don't want to go for a multitude of reasons. ugh
Pos: I'm going to reach out for some support for this before I decide to ditch it..
 
 
 
 
 
Libellule
LibellulePosted 11-12-2018 03:01 PM

Negative: I didn't get the job I really wanted

 

Positive: I got positive feedback on my interviewing skills and have the opportunity to apply for other great jobs! 

 
 
 
 
 
litgym
litgymPosted 11-12-2018 03:44 PM

neg: back to the feeling of let’s end my life ! oh how fun 

pos: ah still here ?

 

neg: everytime i hear an ambulance i keep thinking they are after me

pos: no one has called emergency calls so i know they aren’t after me

 

neg: my whole friend group went to one the girls house and did not invite me 😞 the girl also invited another girls boyfriend. wtf why did they leave me out ?

pos: ah is there one ? 

 
 
 
 
 
Jay-RO
Jay-ROPosted 11-12-2018 04:06 PM
Hey there @litgym,

You've done an awesome job trying to reframe some of the negative thoughts you're dealing with right now. Would you like to make a new thread about those feelings? Are you able to get in contact with your KHL counselor or other support, such as your case manger, today?
 
 
 
 
 
litgym
litgymPosted 13-12-2018 04:37 PM

neg: feeling very low and have made some dumb decisions 

pos: this is what happens, incidents will happen despite how much i try.

 

neg: so bought bandaids from coles and then i went into Kmart. then realising that i didn’t get a receipt ! they were 2 security guards and 2 Kmart workers at the front checking people’s bag. and guess who started having a panic attack and meltdown on floor in Kmart ? me !! kmart has the exact same bandaids as the ones that i bought. i then knew if i tried to leave, i would have to deal with security and of course they don’t believe teenagers. and then i would have to explain i wasn’t stealing, then they’ll call 000 because they’ll realise i was going to try and take my life. 

pos: after a very long panic attack and breakdown, i came up with a smart idea ! i glided my bandaids across the floor under some rack thing because i knew if i tried to keep them things would go horribly wrong.

 
 
 
 
 
Jay-RO
Jay-ROPosted 13-12-2018 04:45 PM
That sounds like a very stressful situation to be in @litgym! I'm sorry to hear that it didn't go so well, but it sounds like you came up with a great solution 🙂 You've done an awesome job reframing these negative thoughts too, sometimes things do happen but the way you've handled yourself afterwards is inspiring. You are doing amazing.
 
 
 
 
 
litgym
litgymPosted 16-12-2018 04:12 PM

neg: life is the shittest and I feel extremely low

pos: there isn't one

 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 16-12-2018 04:28 PM
@litgym pos: you are still here talking to us
 
 
 
 
 
litgym
litgymPosted 30-12-2018 07:27 PM

neg: “father” sent me a nasty text message this morning

pos: i blocked him because i forgot to the other day !

 

neg: probably the last night and today haven’t been the shittest days of my life !!! mum just topped me over last night and cried myself to sleep and cried in the shower.

pos: uhhh some people having been helping me today to stay safe and i still don’t understand how i haven’t done anything yet ! played with maggie for hours as a distraction 

 
 
 
 
 
annabethxchase
annabethxchasePosted 27-12-2018 09:41 PM
Neg: spiralled again
Pos: chatted to khl for a while and calmed myself down

Neg: my sis was vomiting (ergh)
Pos: she slept for ages and I got to watch movies

Neg: was really hot today (it was cloudy but looks cna be deceiving)
Pos: layed in the pool on my pineapple inflatable which still hasn’t popped.

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