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Turning Negatives Into Positives
At the suggestion of Lightuptheworld, I thought I'd start another 'Turning Negatives into Positives' thread like there is on the old forum. Below is a quote from Antria who started the thread on the previous forum which I think explains the idea of the thread quite well.
"Sometimes it can be helpful to turn our thinking around and begin to challenge the way we look at things. Turning negatives into positives is a way of doing this! Basically, think of something that happened today, this week, this month or at some other time that felt negative and see if you can find a positive in it (or that came out of it)."
I find posting in this thread really helps me to look at things in a different way or see positives that I might not have noticed if I'm in a negative headspace. I'll start the ball rolling:
Negative: My friend didn't turn up to class this morning and I was worried I would be alone because I don't really know anyone else in the class.
Positive: It gave me a chance to sit with new people and get to know them better 🙂
Over to you!
pos: I'm listening to some positive music right now, I am feeling better.
@redhead hope you're ok. Sending you virtual hugs <3.
Positive: I've managed through them all, sure I feel bad, but I'm alive and I'm fighting them!
Neg: Reached out to KHL tonight through web but it crashed again just as we got talking about a really hard issue. Blergh
Pos: I tried to reach out. I kinda feel a bit better just by having them acknowledge that everything that's contributing to my mood and anxiety is a LOT to deal with.
Pos: From that I can try to refocus my mind
pos: feeling a bit less overwhelmed. listening to some music.
neg: I didn't feel very well rested when I woke up this morning. Had a really bad migraine upon wakening.
pos: I've been focusing on self-care.
That's fantastic re-framing @Beautifullybroken, I'm glad that even though you're feeling overwhelmed, you've been able to focus on some self-care 🙂 I hope you are feeling better today.
Neg: my foot hurts a little after wearing a shoe for a bit and walking. I think I'm scared to transition out of the moonboot...
Positive: I've spent some time in a shoe and it feels tight, maybe I need a bigger pair of shoes? Maybe I jeed to loosen the laces even more. Maybe I just need to get used to being out of the boot.
Neg: I think I'm worried about injuring my foot again or being in pain. Also the boot protects the foot so maybe I'm worried about it not being as protected as I have an area which still had decreased sensation... I could also be worried about a couple tings the surgeon said about my xray
Pos: I know that the things the surgeon mentioned aren't huge issues. He is hapoy for me to come out of the boot so that is all that matters. I just have to tell my brain that yes I'm worried about them, but they aren't hige issues. It's totally okay that I'm feeling scared and anxious to come out of the boot. I've had my foot and ankle protected for a over 3 months, so naturally I'm going to be protective of it. My friends have validated my feelings ahout some of this and that has helped. I might just air it with my psychologist along with everything else inside my head right now when I see her tomorrow 🙂
neg: I'm so sleepy and my head hurts.
pos: I'm taking it easy today. I'll go to bed early. Relax with essential oil. Probably message my temples a little.
neg: decided to throw my phone across the room onto my bed and then throw a container as well. and i cracked my screen yay !
pos: don’t do it again ?
neg: i feel like shitttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt and veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy over lifeeeeeeeeeeeee
pos: ive made it this far
That's unfortunate @Beautifullybroken 😞 It sucks to not get a good sleep at night. Would you like to make a thread about it? I'm sure many other users could relate to having trouble sleeping 🙂 As @mrmusic said, you've done some awesome reframing, I hope the strategies helped you.
Ha you should see my poor phone @litgym, a cracked screen is a minor injury 🙂 You have made it this far and that's something to be proud of 🙂 You've done an awesome job reframing, how are you feeling today?
Pos: Nothing was broken so that's good, and kitty is okay, she's playing with her toy still but argh
Pos: I'm allowed to feel sad that I lost my cold drink...
Neg: This reminds me of everything else inside my head right now... It's a lot. I don't want to get into it
Pos: I've done well today to get through my psychologist appointment and engage despite difficult topics mentioned.
Neg: I remembered I have an early dentist appointment tomorrow, and I don't want to go for a multitude of reasons. ugh
Pos: I'm going to reach out for some support for this before I decide to ditch it..
Negative: I didn't get the job I really wanted
Positive: I got positive feedback on my interviewing skills and have the opportunity to apply for other great jobs!
neg: back to the feeling of let’s end my life ! oh how fun
pos: ah still here ?
neg: everytime i hear an ambulance i keep thinking they are after me
pos: no one has called emergency calls so i know they aren’t after me
neg: my whole friend group went to one the girls house and did not invite me 😞 the girl also invited another girls boyfriend. wtf why did they leave me out ?
pos: ah is there one ?
You've done an awesome job trying to reframe some of the negative thoughts you're dealing with right now. Would you like to make a new thread about those feelings? Are you able to get in contact with your KHL counselor or other support, such as your case manger, today?
neg: feeling very low and have made some dumb decisions
pos: this is what happens, incidents will happen despite how much i try.
neg: so bought bandaids from coles and then i went into Kmart. then realising that i didn’t get a receipt ! they were 2 security guards and 2 Kmart workers at the front checking people’s bag. and guess who started having a panic attack and meltdown on floor in Kmart ? me !! kmart has the exact same bandaids as the ones that i bought. i then knew if i tried to leave, i would have to deal with security and of course they don’t believe teenagers. and then i would have to explain i wasn’t stealing, then they’ll call 000 because they’ll realise i was going to try and take my life.
pos: after a very long panic attack and breakdown, i came up with a smart idea ! i glided my bandaids across the floor under some rack thing because i knew if i tried to keep them things would go horribly wrong.
neg: life is the shittest and I feel extremely low
pos: there isn't one
neg: “father” sent me a nasty text message this morning
pos: i blocked him because i forgot to the other day !
neg: probably the last night and today haven’t been the shittest days of my life !!! mum just topped me over last night and cried myself to sleep and cried in the shower.
pos: uhhh some people having been helping me today to stay safe and i still don’t understand how i haven’t done anything yet ! played with maggie for hours as a distraction
Pos: chatted to khl for a while and calmed myself down
Neg: my sis was vomiting (ergh)
Pos: she slept for ages and I got to watch movies
Neg: was really hot today (it was cloudy but looks cna be deceiving)
Pos: layed in the pool on my pineapple inflatable which still hasn’t popped.