Parents

Hey @Dyl,

I'm so glad you're having a better day. It's great that you're feeling better and I was also super happy to see you've been participating in some of the other forums and supporting other users. Good on you! (^That's you achieving your goals!)

I've noticed you've gotten really good at being aware of your feelings and noticing when you're feeling good and when you're feeling stressed. That's so great. Another thing that can be really good for turning your day around is practising some self-care. Have you heard of this before? There's a good Self-Care thread on RO here with a bunch of good ideas. I'm sorry your friend isn't treating you well. What's going on?

P.S.: Hope your maths tests goes well, you got this!

@dog_lover94 @MisoBear @TOM-RO 

And now I have a friend treating me like crap

Other then that i'm fine ATM

@MisoBear @TOM-RO 

My idol Ben Hunt is also going through some stuff at the moment

Hi Dyl,

I am so sorry to hear what you're going through.  It is very insightful for you recognising that you're slowly finding it more difficult, then having the strength to admit it and seek help.  Are you safe now? 

I also recommend you to call Kids Helpine on 1800 551 800.  If you prefer you can also chat to a counsellor on - https://kidshelpline.com.au/get-help/webchat-counselling

They have trained counsellors for you 24/7, so if you need that extra support (which we all do at times), they are there for you.

Hey there @Dyl,

I've just been reading through this thread, it sounds like you are under a lot of stress from things at school and the situation with your mum, is that right? 

It's hard to tell someone about a tough time when they are also going through something. Do you think writing a letter might be an easier way telling your mum? That way you don't necessarily have to give it to her straight away. Another thing that might be helpful is to ask your mum if you can tell her, what do you think? 

Is there anything you can do to distract yourself from the stress right now? We have a massive list of coping strategies and distractions if you need any ideas 🙂

@missyj @MisoBear @WheresMySquishy @dog_lover94 @Ladybug 

Thanks for helping me out the best way ya's can so far

I'm sorry that you feel lost @Dyl. We are always here for you to offer support. You can chat whenever you like. You're not alone even though it can sometimes feel this way. Both your parents love you and want the best for you. And everyone here on ReachOut is thinking of you too. It's okay to wait until you're ready to tell your mum about how you feel. Does anybody else in your life know how you are feeling right now?

I'm sorry that you feel lost @Dyl. We are always here for you to offer support. You can chat whenever you like. You're not alone even though it can sometimes feel this way. Both your parents love you and want the best for you. And everyone here on ReachOut is thinking of you too. It's okay to wait until you're ready to tell your mum about how you feel.

Does anybody else in your life know how you are feeling right now?

@Ladybug 

Not really

My best mate and his Mum know

Also my teacher does to

@Ladybug @dog_lover94 @scared01 

I just really miss the good times I had with my Dad

Would you like to share one of those good memories? I'm interested. Also do you know when you can next see him?

@Ladybug 

I don't see him often as he lives is Tasmania

We had some great moments and memories as he'd take me and my little sister to the movie whenever something we liked came out

And we'd always watch the footy and play footy (RUGBY LEAGUE/AFL) in the yard 

He'd always take me out to his shed where I would help him get out equipment and stuff like that 

Hey @Dyl, just joining in on the conversation here! Those sound like some really fun memories with your dad and I'm sorry to hear that you haven't seen him in a while.  It must be pretty difficult to meet up with him if he lives somewhere else.

It's good to hear that you do have some people who know about how you feel, so you can talk to them about it while you're preparing yourself to tell your mum.  Good luck and let us know how it goes! From my personal experience, honesty with parents is really important, especially with tougher subjects like this - your mum will be glad that you've been so honest with her.

In the meantime, is there another way you can get in contact with your dad - maybe a call or send an email?  I find that when I can't meet people physically, staying in contact via the internet can help me feel more connected with others!

Hey @dog_lover94 thanks so much

I am still composing myself before I tell my Mum 

Also

Go the mighty QUEENSLANDERS in the State of origin 

Hi @Dyl,

That's understandable, do you have anyone who can help you rehearse what you want to say to her? It might help if you have practiced expressing your feelings about not seeing your dad before you tell her.

Let us know how it goes!

@dog_lover94 @missyj @Ladybug @scared01 

I'm still really struggling how to tell my Mum 

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@dog_lover94 wrote:

Hi @Dyl,

 

That's understandable, do you have anyone who can help you rehearse what you want to say to her? It might help if you have practiced expressing your feelings about not seeing your dad before you tell her.

 

Let us know how it goes!

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Hey @Dyl, 
Talking to parents about how you feel can definitely be tough sometimes. Would it help if you wrote out some dot points about what you'd like to happen? How would you like your conversation with your mum to go?

@MisoBear 

Yeah maybe that could work