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Turning Negatives Into Positives

At the suggestion of Lightuptheworld, I thought I'd start another 'Turning Negatives into Positives' thread like there is on the old forum. Below is a quote from Antria who started the thread on the previous forum which I think explains the idea of the thread quite well.

 

"Sometimes it can be helpful to turn our thinking around and begin to challenge the way we look at things. Turning negatives into positives is a way of doing this! Basically, think of something that happened today, this week, this month or at some other time that felt negative and see if you can find a positive in it (or that came out of it)."

 

I find posting in this thread really helps me to look at things in a different way or see positives that I might not have noticed if I'm in a negative headspace. I'll start the ball rolling:

 

Negative: My friend didn't turn up to class this morning and I was worried I would be alone because I don't really know anyone else in the class.

Positive: It gave me a chance to sit with new people and get to know them better 🙂

 

Over to you!

delicatedreamer
delicatedreamerPosted 08-08-2012 03:02 PM

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Ben-RO
Ben-ROPosted 12-07-2017 10:34 AM

@j95 i don't think that one was in the spirit of what this thread is for 😛 

 

Can we work out a positive together and maybe mess with that negative a bit? 

 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 12-07-2017 04:39 PM
Ps @Ben-RO just read your reply again and no I can't work out a positive
 
 
 
 
 
Ben-RO
Ben-ROPosted 14-07-2017 10:51 AM

What about now @j95? I aint giving up on this 😛

 
j95
j95Posted 29-06-2017 07:40 PM
Neg: Tomorrow is trade school I'm too scared to go
Pos: I like @letitgo's suggestion of talking to my teachers about how they can make the work more visual for me, I'm just super scared and unsure
 
 
Bree-RO
Bree-ROPosted 29-06-2017 08:11 PM

Maybe wait til rest of class is gone? @j95 whatcha reckon?

 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 29-06-2017 08:14 PM
Could talk to one, send the others an email, esp if the one I talk to has suggestions @Bree-RO
 
 
 
 
Bree-RO
Bree-ROPosted 29-06-2017 08:28 PM

Stellar idea @j95 I like that. The visual stuff really helps too, will probably help a lot of other students as well.

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 29-06-2017 08:31 PM
Not sure how they would do it though @Bree-RO
 
 
 
 
 
Bree-RO
Bree-ROPosted 29-06-2017 08:55 PM

Don't worry about that, they're job is to accommodate students wherever they can 🙂 I actually am with you on this one too.. I just find some of the powerpoints so dry by certain lecturer's. But then other lecturer's are really creative which is nice 🙂 @j95

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 29-06-2017 08:59 PM
or I try to keep on track so I skip bits
 
 
 
 
 
Bree-RO
Bree-ROPosted 29-06-2017 11:02 PM

Haha good plan there! It can be tricky, I feel you. @j95

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 06-07-2017 08:49 PM
@lokifish @N1ghtW1ng (cause you replied to my other post) just my finger, lucky cause I thought it was arm at first.
Life of a boardsports lover...
 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 29-06-2017 08:58 PM
Yeah that's so true and written material, I have no idea what some of it even means and I try to read it but because I'm a slower reader I get left behind
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 29-06-2017 08:13 PM
Yeah for sure, I've got a few classes tomorrow, so a few teachers, not sure how to work that @Bree-RO
 
Creativegirl12
Creativegirl12Posted 21-06-2016 06:04 PM
Neg: migraine decided to flare up again
Pos: I took today easy, and had painkillers. I'm doing a bit better now.
Neg: been awfully depressed today.
Pos: it's okay. I can work through this. I did a bunch of self care stuff and it helped some. I may not be happy, but I'm not as bad as I felt earlier.
 
 
Stealth_ninja
Stealth_ninjaPosted 21-06-2016 10:49 PM

I second @redhead for this one @Creativegirl12, I think you are doing really well and I hope you can see how resilient you are. You know that you can work through it and you know what self care you need! Go YOU!

 

And @redhead as always you are such a supportive and integral part of this community, i've seen a few posts like this lately and I think you're such a beautiful person 🙂

 

Neg: SUPER sore from dancing today and freaking out that i'm going to get injured

Pos: Athelticism isn't about being amazing all the time but learning how to manage your body and your bodies reactions to fatigue and overworking. Just need to keep persevering. I have good people around me 🙂

 
 
 
Bay52VU
Bay52VUPosted 23-06-2016 02:36 PM

-  I'm a dumbass loser who makes no sense.

+ At least other people can avoid me.

-  I'm still stuck with me and should've offed myself when it would've mattered to fewer people.

+ My existence matters to some people even if nothing else about me really does.

 
 
 
 
Bay52VU
Bay52VUPosted 23-06-2016 08:09 PM
- Feeling sad.
+ I need to have some water, take out garbage, do dishes, have shower, and then sleep. All of which can be done while feeling sad so it doesn't matter.
 
 
 
 
 
Bay52VU
Bay52VUPosted 25-06-2016 09:17 PM

-  It's cold.

+ I'll get warmer in the shower.

-  Stuff I don't know how to articulate.

+ It's ok, it feels urgent but there's realistically no timeframe.

-  Didn't do any of the stuff I need to do.

+ At least I watched some of the online course stuff.

 
 
 
 
 
lokifish
lokifishPosted 26-06-2016 11:01 AM

Negative: super anxious about starting placement tomorrow. What if I'm late? What if I don't know anything? What if I have a panic attack on the ward and can't leave? What if it ends up being too hard like my last placement? This is my absolute DREAM hospital to work at - what if I stuff everything up and get a crappy report/reference which will kill my chances of working there after graduating?

 

Positive:

a) The train I'm catching should get me there early enough. If it's cancelled for some unlikely reason I can always get a lift

 

b) I know more than I give myself credit for - uni wouldn't let me complete this placement if they didn't feel I have the scope of practice to be able to complete it. Plus the nurses should be understanding that it'll be my first time performing a lot of skills in a real-world situation - they were in my position once upon a time.

 

c) I have strategies to cope with my anxiety if I do start to panic. Although it feels unpleasant I won't die and it will eventually pass.

 

d) My last placement involved several hours of travelling each day, and dealing with my mental health issues without much support. This time I'll be at a hospital closer to home and I'm getting help for my anxiety/depression. I've got a psych appointment next Monday so if I'm having trouble I can work on it then.

 

e) It's pretty unlikely I'll get a terrible report - all my placement evaluations so far have been positive. And even if I don't get a job there immediately after graduating it doesn't mean I'll never be able to work there - I've got my whole career to work my way up to getting a position there 😛

 

 

Woah this was a big post 😛 but I wanted to break everything down and address each worry individually 🙂

 
 
 
 
 
TOM-RO
TOM-ROPosted 26-06-2016 11:20 AM
@lokifish
Have a fabulous day at placement tomorrow.
And for c) with your strategies, as you take in a deep, relaxing breath, give yourself a little smile, physically, because you are deeply, always alright and also brave and courageous, feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
 
 
 
 
 
Bay52VU
Bay52VUPosted 26-06-2016 03:13 PM

-  abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz can't say what the negative is.

+ Not doing anything about it so it's all g.

 
 
 
 
 
FootyFan26
FootyFan26Posted 26-06-2016 04:00 PM
@Bay52VU do you think it would help to do something about the negative?
 
 
 
 
 
Bay52VU
Bay52VUPosted 26-06-2016 05:52 PM
I don't think so for this one.
 
 
 
 
 
FootyFan26
FootyFan26Posted 26-06-2016 06:40 PM
@Bay52VU so what do you think could help it?

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