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Turning Negatives Into Positives
At the suggestion of Lightuptheworld, I thought I'd start another 'Turning Negatives into Positives' thread like there is on the old forum. Below is a quote from Antria who started the thread on the previous forum which I think explains the idea of the thread quite well.
"Sometimes it can be helpful to turn our thinking around and begin to challenge the way we look at things. Turning negatives into positives is a way of doing this! Basically, think of something that happened today, this week, this month or at some other time that felt negative and see if you can find a positive in it (or that came out of it)."
I find posting in this thread really helps me to look at things in a different way or see positives that I might not have noticed if I'm in a negative headspace. I'll start the ball rolling:
Negative: My friend didn't turn up to class this morning and I was worried I would be alone because I don't really know anyone else in the class.
Positive: It gave me a chance to sit with new people and get to know them better 🙂
Over to you!
Life of a boardsports lover...
Pos: I took today easy, and had painkillers. I'm doing a bit better now.
Neg: been awfully depressed today.
Pos: it's okay. I can work through this. I did a bunch of self care stuff and it helped some. I may not be happy, but I'm not as bad as I felt earlier.
I second @redhead for this one @Creativegirl12, I think you are doing really well and I hope you can see how resilient you are. You know that you can work through it and you know what self care you need! Go YOU!
And @redhead as always you are such a supportive and integral part of this community, i've seen a few posts like this lately and I think you're such a beautiful person 🙂
Neg: SUPER sore from dancing today and freaking out that i'm going to get injured
Pos: Athelticism isn't about being amazing all the time but learning how to manage your body and your bodies reactions to fatigue and overworking. Just need to keep persevering. I have good people around me 🙂
- I'm a dumbass loser who makes no sense.
+ At least other people can avoid me.
- I'm still stuck with me and should've offed myself when it would've mattered to fewer people.
+ My existence matters to some people even if nothing else about me really does.
+ I need to have some water, take out garbage, do dishes, have shower, and then sleep. All of which can be done while feeling sad so it doesn't matter.
- It's cold.
+ I'll get warmer in the shower.
- Stuff I don't know how to articulate.
+ It's ok, it feels urgent but there's realistically no timeframe.
- Didn't do any of the stuff I need to do.
+ At least I watched some of the online course stuff.
Negative: super anxious about starting placement tomorrow. What if I'm late? What if I don't know anything? What if I have a panic attack on the ward and can't leave? What if it ends up being too hard like my last placement? This is my absolute DREAM hospital to work at - what if I stuff everything up and get a crappy report/reference which will kill my chances of working there after graduating?
Positive:
a) The train I'm catching should get me there early enough. If it's cancelled for some unlikely reason I can always get a lift
b) I know more than I give myself credit for - uni wouldn't let me complete this placement if they didn't feel I have the scope of practice to be able to complete it. Plus the nurses should be understanding that it'll be my first time performing a lot of skills in a real-world situation - they were in my position once upon a time.
c) I have strategies to cope with my anxiety if I do start to panic. Although it feels unpleasant I won't die and it will eventually pass.
d) My last placement involved several hours of travelling each day, and dealing with my mental health issues without much support. This time I'll be at a hospital closer to home and I'm getting help for my anxiety/depression. I've got a psych appointment next Monday so if I'm having trouble I can work on it then.
e) It's pretty unlikely I'll get a terrible report - all my placement evaluations so far have been positive. And even if I don't get a job there immediately after graduating it doesn't mean I'll never be able to work there - I've got my whole career to work my way up to getting a position there 😛
Woah this was a big post 😛 but I wanted to break everything down and address each worry individually 🙂
Have a fabulous day at placement tomorrow.
And for c) with your strategies, as you take in a deep, relaxing breath, give yourself a little smile, physically, because you are deeply, always alright and also brave and courageous, feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
- abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz can't say what the negative is.
+ Not doing anything about it so it's all g.