AMAA: Boundaries
We're excited to announce this month; two incredible guests will join us for another "Ask Me Almost Anything". Together we will be unpacking the topic of boundaries in relationships.
Personal boundaries are the rules and limits we decide are right for us.
They include things like:
- Saying no to catching up with a friend if you're not feeling up to it
- Sharing your pronouns with your family members
- Telling your partner what level of intimacy you are comfortable with
We all have different boundaries, and so do the people around us. But, of course, it's not always easy to navigate how to set boundaries, how to communicate them or what to do if you've crossed a boundary.
So, that is why we will be talking it out with our two guests:
Rashida is a Registered Psychologist in Sydney; Working in Private Practice and feeling honoured to work with the clients she does. With a special interest working with identity, culture and purpose.
A life-long love affair with wanting to understand people, their lives, experiences and worlds, and how it all intertwines and shows up in the way we behave led her down a path of traveling and living all over the world whilst studying Psychology. Passionate about advocating for destigmatizing mental illness and creating a more holistic approach to mental well-being.
Also a lover of nature, art, music, chai and sleep - all the great things in life
Akhil is a junior doctor and has a long-term relationship with ReachOut Australia as he joined the organisation as a youth ambassador in 2013 and went on to work as a research intern.
Akhil strongly believes in the equity of access to health information and services, and enjoys using data-driven approaches to help reach that goal. He is passionate about the not-for-profit sector, having founded his own mental health service for university students and worked at several other not-for-profit organisations dedicated to health improvement.
He loves playing tennis and doing pottery.
Get your questions in and we will be answering them LIVE on the 21st of July between 7pm - 9pm
Can't wait to see you all there!
Super happy to be here! For me, boundaries are a matter of things that I am comfortable doing/being, ad things that I am not comfortable doing/being. They can be hard to set up, and are always changing, but are super important for our own health and happiness, as well as those around us.
We're happy to have you @Akhil-RO and @GuestPsychologist1 🙂 That's true about boundaries always changing
Yes - the fact they are always changing or have the capacity to be changed is so important to mention!
Also that they are important not just for ourselves but also the people in our lives.
I like that you mentioned that boundaries are important, not only for ourselves, but also for those around us. That is something that took me a long time to understand!
Ooh yeah that's true @Bre-RO , it's not just the individual but those around them who are impacted. It seems important for people to understand their relationship to others. Is this what you mean? I would be keen to hear what you've learnt about boundaries Bre, if you wanna share! 🙂
Yes exactly @Lost_Space_Explorer5 - for example I've had times where I have needed some alone time but unless I communicate that to my friends/family they don't know to give me space. I know for me if I don't set a boundary I eventually blow up - which isn't good for anyone.
It's helpful to let people know what your limitations are so they can try to adjust their expectations of you 🙂
Yeah that makes sense @Bre-RO! I've definitely had times where my boundaries were 'implied' and people got mad at me taking it as a slight against them 😅 Still sometimes even when you explain people don't respect them.. 😞 alas
This is true @lost_Space_Explorer5. I know that when I started to get serious about boundaries people in my life were actually quite angry. It can take time for people to wrap their heads around the "new you"
It's so tough but all you can do is hope they come around or you find new people who respect your boundaries
Mmm yeah or like people might treat it as a joke and then you feel less capable of enforcing the boundary 😞 @Bre-RO It's tough..
Totally 😌 It doesn't feel good at all. As someone who can be a people pleaser and shy I've hated being put in that position.
Those experiences have given me practice in sounding my boundaries and explaining why they exist. Even though it's really shitty at the time - know that each time someone question your boundaries, you get more comfortable with holding your ground
I would also say about boundaries that being open about them, communicating what they are and why (as much as you feel is comfortable) is super important
I have definitely seen conflict where one or both people have set boundaries, and there is a lack of clear communication between the two.
I think that good and clear communication about boundaries is the key!
I think if we are talking about boundaries with people around us/ in our relationships, having clear expectations and boundaries is super important in conflict and mutual understanding, so definitely helpful for all the people involved! I would encourage everyone to think about having a chat about boundaries for important relationships in our lives.
Always a pleasure to be here. Thanks for having me again 🙂
I had such a great time the last time we were here talking about 'change'
Hello everyone! As always it's a pleasure to be spending the evening with you all.
It's so important to have time to unpack a topic like boundaries.
Before we get into the questions - If anything we discuss tonight brings up any big emotions for you please get in touch with some support:
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Relationships Australia: 1300 364 277
1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732
We are almost ready to get going!
It's so good to have you here again @GuestPsychologist1
Welcome @Akhil-RO to your first Ask Me Almost Anything with us.
Hey everyone 🙂 Super keen for this topic- boundaries are so important! ❤️
So excited for this one! I know that boundaries, both personally and professionally, are SO important to me. It's been one of my biggest lessons of 2020-2021.
Just tagging some people who may be keen for this chat, everyone's welcome!
@Lost_Space_Explorer5 @WheresMySquishy @Hozzles @Anzelmo @Tiny_leaf @Saltwaterdreamtime @MB95 @Anzelmo @xXLexi_Lou122Xx @ayrc_1904 @haziejay @Bingo1234 @Rattata
I read this article! I hope you will continue to have such articles to share with everyone! thank you!
